“In those periods of despair, I had to choose to believe God and trust in his promises, rather than trusting my feelings.”
As a young adult in the ministry, when I see other men and women on fire for the things of God, it makes me want to seek and go after Him harder. Maybe I’m the only one, but I get joy when I see young people worshiping freely. Not having a care in the world, and having a moment between them and God. I tend to get emotional at times when I see the hunger and thirst that the children of God have for Him. The day and time that we live in, you don’t really see young people living in the truth that they know is right (which is the word of God). This generation is stuck in the ways of the world and are being consumed with what the world says is right or wrong. We need to come out of that mind set and remember what God has purposed for us.
Romans 12:2 (KJV) ;And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
As children of God, He has called us ALL to do work for his Kingdom. Whether that be serving in the church, doing praise and worship, ushering, teaching, cleaning, doing Sunday school, praise dance, etc.
Ephesians 4:11-14 (KJV)And he gave some, apostles; and some, prophets; and some, evangelists; and some, pastors and teachers,12 For the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ:13 Till we all come in the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a perfect man, unto the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ:14 That we henceforth be no more children, tossed to and fro, and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the sleight of men, and cunning craftiness, whereby they lie in wait to deceive.
When we are called to do work for His kingdom, we must make sure that whatever we are called to do, we do in excellence. There is no exception to doing things halfway and not putting your all in it. God does not get the glory when we serve with the wrong spirit. When we are called to do work for the kingdom, we must make sure that our heart and minds are pure and clean.
When we start to walk into what God has called us to do, pertaining to his Kingdom, there are somethings that we must do in order for Him to get the glory and to be used mightily through him:
Submission: To yield, resign or surrender to the power.
Psalm 2:9-11 (KJV); You shall break them with a rod of iron, You shall shatter them like earthenware.'” Now therefore, O kings, show discernment; Take warning, O judges of the earth. Worship the LORD with reverence And rejoice with trembling.
1 Peter 5:6 (KJV); Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you at the proper time,
When you submit to God, He is able to use you because He sees your heart and knows that he is able to trust you in certain areas. By submitting to God you are saying, “Here I am” Do what you please and use me for your Glory”. Some people have excuses as to why they have a hard time submitting to God, when there shouldn’t be any excuse (Excuses are for people who don’t want it bad enough). Submission comes with obedience. When your obedient to God (as we should already be because we are children of God) we will be able to grow spiritually and fruit will grow from it. If you are unable to submit to God then you have a REALLY BIG issue. You can’t expect for God to use you and move in your life if you have a hard time listening and doing as the Lord tells you.God doesn’t bless mess.
Doubt: to be in uncertainty
Fear: A painful emotion or passion excited by an expectation of evil, or the apprehension of impending danger.
Romans 14:23 (KJV); But whoever has doubts is condemned if he eats, because the eating is not from faith. For whatever does not proceed from faith is sin.
James 1:6(KJV); But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind.
Mark 11:23(KJV); Truly, I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, ‘Be taken up and thrown into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that what he says will come to pass, it will be done for him.
When you become obedient and serve God with your whole heart, the enemy knows that he has lost you. You’re one more person that he has to contend with, and he will bring all types of stumbling blocks along allowing fear and doubt to creep in . When I first had the idea about starting this blog, I had reservations about the blog and what people were going to say, think, or feel. Whenever you want to serve God, the enemy will do all he can do to hinder you from doing so. Since we are emotional creatures and always caught up in how we feel, that is where the enemy will attack first. All kinds of thoughts will come into your mind, and he will even send family or loved ones your way to add on to your doubt and fear.
Yearn: To have an intense feeling of longing for something
1 Chronicles 16:11(KJV); Seek the Lord and his strength, seek his face continually.
2 Chronicles 12:14(KJV); And he did evil, because he prepared not his heart to seek the Lord.
When you have a yearning for God, you can’t go a day without being in his presence. I could be at work, and the whole time I’m thinking about how I’m going to spend time with God when I get home. Even on my daily commute to work I will have my praise and worship, read my Joyce Meyers Book, and start my day off with God. When I am on my way home, I have praise and worship music playing on my walk to the train station. I am telling you that nothing beats being in the presence of God. There is so much peace, joy, revelation, and at times a feeling that you’re unable to describe.
Seek: Attempt to find.
Matthew 6:33 (KJV);But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Deuteronomy 4:29 (KJV); But if from thence thou shalt seek the Lord thy God, thou shalt find him, if thou seek him with all thy heart and with all thy soul.
Seeking after God causes revelation that pertains to your life. When you seek God, He will reveal things to you about yourself, a situation that you may be dealing with. God wants us to seek after Him daily. When we seek God for ourselves wisdom, knowledge and understanding take place. We are to seek God in everything that relates to our life and walk with Christ. When we are dealing with situations that we are uncertain about, God will direct us on how to deal with that person or situation, letting peace subside in the midst of it all. Ways that you can seek God:
– Reading the Bible
– Get in a quiet place and make sure that the atmosphere is one that is welcoming to Christ so he is able to come in and have his way. ( i.e. prayer room, church, a park, the beach, your car, take a walk etc.) Just be still and clear your mind.
Seeking God is an awesome thing to make a habit of as Children of God. It is mind blowing the blessings, the wisdom, the knowledge that you could receive by seeking God. We need to get to a place where we deny ourselves ,the worldly pleasures we enjoy, and fill ourselves with more of God and His word. We are living in the last days. We don’t know when Jesus is coming back for the church/body of Christ, so right now is the best time to get as much of the word of God in you as possible and live by it.
the state of thinking or hoping that something, especially something pleasant, will happen or be the case.
Acts 3:5 – And he gave heed unto them, expecting to receive something of them.
When you’re believing God to do a mighty work in you and use you in different avenues, we must believe that it is so and expect for it to happen(and if it is his will it will happen). When you have the spirit of expectancy your antennas are always up because you are waiting for God to move on your behave. At times it may seem like nothing is happening for you and it can become frustrating and you want to give up, continue to push through and be faithful God will reward you for staying true and holding on.
2 Chronicles 15:7 (KJV) ; 7 But as for you, be strong and do not give up, for your work will be rewarded.”
Galatians 6:9 (KJV); 9 Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.
I can speak from a personal stand point that when I ‘m expecting God to move it helps me to stay on course and make sure that my life is a life that God approves of and is living up to the Word of God. I have a reverential fear for God and I do not want to mess up the will that God has for me. ( Read 2 Corinthians 4:1-11)
– Less of You and More of God
-Submit to God
– Do Not walk in Fear or Doubt
-Yearn after God
-Seek God’s face daily
– Be Expecting
– Be Consistent
xoxo…God Bless ❤
“Allow God to be the matchmaker of your life because your feelings could fool you.”
When God sends you the man you’re called to be with… you will know. This man will speak not your flesh, but to your spirit. You will experience something with him that you have never experienced before. He will love you in ways that other men didn’t, and it will be so worth it when you meet him.
Being Single can be a difficult time for both women and men. I know I can speak for the ladies when I say waiting for your Man Of God can be challenging, testing, and overwhelming. As women we are supposed to be pursued by the man. Sometimes, women may feel that the man is taking too long and needs some help or a push, try to initiate things from our end. That right there is a NO! NO! When we are waiting for our Man Of God to make his appearance, we are to be focused on God and getting ourselves together. I find that when you are constantly thinking about your future spouse, and when and how your going to meet them, it makes the process seem more frustrating, miserable, and drawn out. There are a lot of things that we can do in the mean time as we wait for our special someone:
Focus on your walk with God– Pray, Read the Bible, and work on whatever you may be struggling with at that point and time (lying, being sneaky, anger, unforgiveness, masturbation, pornography, etc.). Get delivered from it so that won’t be a hindrance to you.
Work Out– Staying fit and healthy is always a good thing. Men are visual creatures so I know they would appreciate it if the lady they have interest in takes care of their body.
Go to Church Consistently: When you are in the house of God your are so consumed by his presence and glory that your mind is not wandering off, turning into thinking about your future husband.
Learn to Cook– I think all the men would appreciate this one, because we all know men love to eat. So a woman that can cook will be a plus for your future husband.
Live in the present time– Enjoy what is going on right now . Do not focus so much on what you want, but do not have. Use the freedom that you have now to live and enjoy. Once your future wife or husband comes and you guys start courting, you guys will be together 24/7.
Visit Friends and Family– Who doesn’t enjoy spending time with their loved ones?
Read– Reading is fundamental. =)
Be Careful! Looks are deceiving :
Now in the midst of the wait, I can guarantee you that there will be distractions and impostors. What I mean by that is the enemy will send people who may have the full package your way to make you think that person is for you. This is why it is important to keep your prayer life in full effect, read your Word, and communicate with our heavenly Father on a daily basis. You will receive discernment and know if he is or is not the one for you. We all have this picture of what we would like our future spouse to look like from the hair, skin complexion, eyes, teeth, height, weight etc. The enemy knows what you like, and he will send distractions to keep you from who God has for you. When two God fearing people come together as one, the devil already knows that he is in trouble.
I can personally testify and tell you that the enemy sends distractions. I am going to be transparent with you guys for a minute. I met this one guy at a function. He was a keyboardist at a church, and he helped out other ministries if they needed an organist to play for them. He was 6″5, handsome, everything that I would be attracted to. That was attractive to me because there is nothing like a man who worships, plays an instrument, and can sing. So I met him at this function, and we exchanged numbers after talking about my church and how he would like to come and fellowship with the youth (we have youth night once a month).
About a week later, he sends me a text and we talked everyday from that point on. We hung out a few times and I liked him, but there were some red flags. At times the spirit of discernment would take over, and I would have doubts that he could be the one. Even though he went to church faithfully, played in the church band, and was involved in his ministry, he was not who I thought he was. I found out he was keeping secrets, listening to worldly music, always out partying, he had a problem with keeping his hands to himself, he would curse from time to time, he would drink alcoholic beverages. It was something that, as a Woman of God, I did not find acceptable. I know Who and Whose I am, and deserve better.
Even though I saw those red flags I ignored them because there was finally someone showing me attention, and I didn’t want to be some again. It got to a point where he was emotionally and mentally abusive. Even though I knew who I was in Christ I would start to second guess who I was. I almost lost myself because of how I let this guy treat me. It was so draining and I felt hopeless. When I finally worked up the guts to walk away I felt so free. That was a wake up call that I need to wait on God, stop trying to make things happen that aren’t meant to be, and stop trying to do things before His time. Below are some characteristics of a Godly Man:
What characteristics should I look for in a Godly Man?:
- Boldness: Acts 4:29 (KJV)
- Humility: James 4:6 (KJV)
- Gentle: 1 Thes 2:7 (KJV)
- Strong: Ephesians 6:10 (KJV)
- Generous: 2 Corinthians 9:6(KJV)
- Patience: Romans 5:3-4(KJV)
- Dependable: Psalm 15:4(KJV)
- Truthful: Ephesians 4:5 (KJV)
- Attentive: Hebrews 1:1 (KJV)
- Discretion: Proverbs 22:3 (KJV)
- Responsible: Romans 14:12 (KJV)
WAIT DO NOT SETTLE!!!!
God has BIG BIG BIG things planned for our lives when we let Him have His way, in His timing. God wants to bless us with someone who is going to take care of you spiritually, emotionally, financially, and physically. God knows what we like, so there is no need to be worried about your spouse being unattractive, or someone that you will not love. God is a God of Love and he wants the best for us. They may not have EVERYTHING you want in a wife or husband but he/she will have what you need. When you walk out of His will for your life, and you go ahead of God and plan your life the way YOU want it to be, that is how you mess things up. You could end up ruining your life by settling because you don’t want to be alone. Whatever you do, do not settle. When you see who God has for you, you will be happy that you waited.
A Note from The Father……
No Man can ever claim you unless he claims you from Me. I reserve a man for you who has MY heart and loves me even more than he will love you. Soon you will know him, I have the perfect time. You’re my princess, my daughter. Let no prince claim you unless he asks you from My hand for I AM your Father, the King of kings. You, my princess, are worth loving and deserve a prince”
So Remember……GOD HAS NOT FORGOTTEN ABOUT YOU & THE BEST IS YET TO COME!!!
xoxo God Bless ❤
” I sat there, lost and cold because I was betrayed by the one person I didn’t expect to hurt me. I wanted to erase the memory but that’s unrealistic; then, a magic moment happened. I forgave them. Even though it hurt like hell, forgiveness brought me freedom, joy and happiness. I was no longer a slave to my circumstances”
Forgiveness is a deep process, which is repeated over and over again in our hearts. It honors the grief and it honors the betrayal. And in its own time it ripens into the freedom to truly forgive. – Gina Sharpe ” The Power of Forgiveness”
Do you ever stop to think that when you have unforgiveness in your heart and you keep dwelling on a situation that happened in the past, that you withhold yourself from enjoying life and living life in abundance? When you walk around pouting , murmuring and complaining about what someone did to you, you are giving that someone the power to run your life. Now I understand if its fresh and happened that day , the day before but when it goes into weeks, months even years especially years it’s time to get out your feelings and move on with your life. We should never let unforgiveness fester in our hearts because it does nothing but taint our spirit and make our hearts hard towards that individual.
Forgiveness does not excuse their actions but forgiveness is a reflection of loving yourself. When you love yourself you take control of your life and you do not let people and their behaviors take a hold of you. Especially as children of God we should want to walk in light and not have a dark cloud over us and carrying the burden and weight of unforgiveness on our shoulders. We want to let everyone see the presence of God over us and not anger and bitterness, no more living in our emotion and feelings. We let our emotions control us too much and it’s becoming second nature that we may not even realize that we are walking in our emotions. I had to learn through my walk with Christ ( I am still learning to this day) that people are going to hurt you as long as you have breath in your body. It’s life we may hurt someone, and someone may hurt us maybe not intentionally but we all will or have rubbed each other the wrong way. It is up to us with what we choose to do with that. Did you know that unforgiveness is a sin?
Have you taken the time out to think about how we hurt, offend and disappoint our Heavenly Father daily? But yet he is merciful and gracious to forgive us each and every time, we should have no problem forgiving one another. If you think about it we do not deserve God’s grace, as many warning’s as we get from reading his word about how we should live but continue to carry on in our flesh. God even blessed us (the church) with real Men and Women of God who hear from Him personally to give us warnings/rebukes, but we still carry on the same ol same ol as if we missed that service.
We grieve The Holy Spirit far worse then we hurt one another how you ask? By…
- walking in disobedience ( parents, pastors, the word of God)
- putting people, things, objects before him
- not walking in Love
- not sharing the word of God with others
- when we “repent” but continue to do the sin we “repented”for
- walking in rebellion
- when we use God to get things
and the list goes on and on.
Forgive and Forget
(KJV) Colossians 3:13; Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.
If you say you forgive someone then you must truly forgive them. One way to find out if someone really forgave you is if they consistently bring up what you did to them in the past and can’t seem to let it go. I see this a lot in relationships whether it be marriage, dating, or friendships. We have all seen it in movies and TV Show’s as well where it is usually the Man who does something ( sorry guys) to make the women upset and want nothing to do with you and he begs for her forgiveness and show’s how sorry he is by doing sweet gestures for his lady. The girlfriend or wife then forgive their loved one and everything is all cute and lovely. All that comes to an end when the Boyfriend/ Husband does something else that the girlfriend/ wife may find offensive or makes her mad, and she will proceed to bring up the past and say you were never sorry you continue to do this,that and the third and last month you did this and that… well guys guess what she never let it go and never forgave. The emotions and memories were tuck away in her back pocket in case she needed to take them out again.
When you forgive you forget as well or at least that’s what we are suppose to do. I know everyone thinks that we are suppose to forgive but not forget.. Well sorry to say this but that’s not how it works. When we forget it shows that we are starting over on a clean slate whatever happened in the past that is where we choose to leave it in the past. Some people including myself may have a hard time forgetting because it really hurt us or someone who we loved, and trusted betrayed you and your not sure if you could ever trust them again or have the same bond that you once shared. In order for us to have full control and not let the behavior of others take hold of us we need to be honest with ourselves and truly forget. When we let unforgiveness take residence in us that is were resentment, bitterness, hatred, strife comes into play. Letting those different spirits take hold of you only God knows what you are capable of doing and that’s a scary thought.
(KJV) Ephesians 4:31-32; Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
Holding on to the past and being help captive in that moment can cause you to act out in ways that you probably never imagined. I remember when I was in college I was fresh in my walk with God ( i needed A LOT of deliverance) but there were some people who treated me unfairly they bullied me, would taunt me, say all types of things to and about me. I would cry , hold in the anger and frustration, drink my emotions away until I was numb and it got to the point where the spirit of murder came over me. I would have visions of myself committing horrible crimes against them (and it didn’t help that my major was criminal justice) and it got so bad that I honestly scared myself because that was not me at all. I knew right then and there I needed to get away from everyone be by myself get in the word and pray. It took time but I was able to forgive and forget and to this day I do not hate them I have not have hard feelings towards them. It feels good knowing that I can love on people who have done me wrong. That is when you know you are walking in light and maturing in God.
5 Way’s to help you Forgive others:
- Don’t deny that you’ve been hurt. Forgiving isn’t denying.
- Make a decision to forgive others ( Luke 17:3-5)
- Don’t seek revenge or repay evil for evil. Let God Handle it ( 1 Peter 3:9)
- Pray the Lord will release any anger inside you ( Ephesians 4:26-27,31)
- Pray for those who have hurt you ( Matthew 5:44)
Forgiveness and The Love of God ❤
(KJV) Isaiah 43:25-26 I, even I, am he that blotteth out thy transgressions for mine own sake, and will not remember thy sins.
Did you know that God Forgives us every time we sin? When we forgive others of their wrongdoing towards us God will forgive us. If we do not forgive others he will not forgive us. Think of one the the worst sin’s that you’ve committed and you know that if God had not been merciful and forgave you, you would have been on your way to hell with gasoline draws on. When we ask God for forgiveness we must truly want forgiveness and want to change. When we are forgiven we must turn from the sin and continue doing right. We will stumble and fall but it’s not about how we start but how we finish.The thing about this is that if we continue to sin and have no type of proof of us trying to change and grow,God will take his hands off of you and leave you to your sin. So do not think that just because God is merciful and forgiving that you can continue to get away with murder. You never want to be where God was but where he is.
(KJV) Romans 1:28-31 And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient; Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers, Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents, Without understanding, covenant breakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful: Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.
God loves us and he wants to see us prosper and love one another regardless of how people treat us. We can’t say we are Christians (Christ-like) while walking around mad, holding a grudge, not wanting to forgive and just set in our ways. Jesus was betrayed, lied on, set up for death, and died an innocent man because of unbelievers and people who did not like him for the lies that people made up about him. Through it all Jesus forgave each and every single one of them.Even while he was dying on the cross a slow and painful death he asked the Father to forgive those that did him wrong because they did not know what they were doing. So think about that knowing that Jesus went through hell and was killed because of lies and betrayal He was still able to forgive and have love for his enemies we should be able to love those who do us wrong. We have it easy compared to what Jesus endured.
Unforgivness is also a form of rebellion and Rebellion open’s a door to the demonic in a person’s life. The Bible strictly warns us against rebellion, and it’s consequences are not to be taken lightly. God’s Word tells us that rebellion is in the same category of sin as witchcraft itself ( but i will touch on that in a different blog) ..
What if they continue to hurt or offend me?
The Scriptures below sum’s up what we are to do if someone we constantly forgive continues to hurt us. If you do not understand what they are saying they are saying to FORGIVE!! Continue to forgive them over and over and over again!
(KJV) Matthew 18:21-22; Then Peter came to Him and asked, “Lord, how many times will my brother sin against me and I forgive him and let it go? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered him, “I say to you, not up to seven times, but seventy times seven.
(KJV) Luke 17:3-4 Pay attention and always be on guard [looking out for one another]! If your brother sins and disregards God’s precepts, solemnly warn him; and if he repents and changes, forgive him. Even if he sins against you seven times a day, and returns to you seven times and says, ‘I repent,’ you must forgive him [that is, give up resentment and consider the offense recalled and annulled].
So please everyone lets challenge ourselves to forgive daily even when it is hard, try to find the good in the person. Even if you have to be distant from that person have no hate or bitterness or unforgiveness in your heart towards them. We are to blessed and beautiful or handsome to carry the ugliness of Unforgiveness.
xoxo… God Bless ❤
Ephesians 4:29 ;Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.
What is Gossip?
Gossip is defined as : casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details that are not confirmed as being true.
Have you ever heard something about someone else and it was soooo juicy that you just had to tell someone else, not thinking that it could hurt them or cause problems for you and the other person or even get back to them. Well I am here to help us all understand what Gossip is, does and what the word says about it. I hope you find this to be helpful and of some use. You may be reading this and say this is so elementary I’m aware of this, but think about it you still do it to this day. SO think of this as a refresher! So let’s jump on in:
We are all guilty of Gossiping even myself. I use to be the biggest gossiper known to man. I would know the EVERYONE’S business, but as I grew up and became older and wiser I started to notice how gossiping caused confusion, drama, chaos, unnecessary fights (verbal/physical) so on and so forth. I really saw how much confusion and drama gossiping brought when the tables were turned and I was the one that was being talked about. No one ever wants to be on the side of being spoken bad of but are quick to be the one spewing all evil and probably even false accusations.
As children of God we MUST set a standard and not become obsessed with knowing details of everyone else’s life, and focus more on our own soul salvation. This also goes for those who may be new in their walk with God, when we focus less on others and more on ourselves and getting ourselves together we don’t have time to entertain gossip . We must be careful with the conversations that we keep and what we expose our ear’s too. Why you ask? Well first of all your ears are one of the many gateways to your spirit and when you let certain things in through certain gateways that’s when you give access to the enemy to use you. Secondly because the devil loves to cause division, chaos,confusion,quarrel ect and that is exactly what gossiping does.
The devil enjoys seeing the children of God coming against one another and tearing each other down, instead of lifting each other up. The enemy knows that sooner or later the spirit of division, quarrel, hate, backbiting, un forgiveness, murder (in our hearts not physically but it could get to that point if we let it) is going to show itself. God is not about that he is a God of Love and since we are his children and made in his image we are to be of Love and of light as well.
Hmmm.. WHAT TO DO WHAT TO DO???
When someone comes to you with information about another person doing or behaving in a way that is not Christ-like whether that be stealing, fornicating, addicted to porn, drinking, smoking, ect) instead of us running and telling the next person what you heard bring it to God in prayer and pray for that person. When we have a pure heart and pure intentions then we truly care for each other’s soul and walk with God . Galatians 6:2 says;Bear ye one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. So when you hear a rumor about someone and you sit back and indulge in the gossip your not carrying the burden of your brother or sister. When Jesus said bear ye one another burden’s He isn’t saying that we are to literally take on their problems but we are to pray for them and be an intercessor for them not be so quick to judge or look down on them.
I know your thinking but what if it’s true? If the rumor is true we ourselves are not perfect we sin everyday we just sin differently. So we have no right to point the finger at anyone and make them feel condemned. If the rumor is true and you are 1000% sure and have concrete evidence the whole works still let it be. If that person want’s to talk about it or needs an ear or shoulder to cry on they will go to someone who they trust and love and speak about whatever is going on. There is no need for you to give unwanted or asked advice/ opinion. If they come to you and want to talk then love on them do not condemn them or judge and most importantly whatever is discussed between you and that person stays between you and that person.
Let me break down the difference between Condemnation and Conviction really quick :
Condemnation means that when someone does something that is wrong they feel like their is no way out.
Conviction works differently for the Christian and non-christian. For the non-christian, conviction shows sinfulness, guilt and brings fear of God’s righteous judgement. Whereas, conviction in the believer brings an awareness of sin and results in repentance, confession and cleansing.
We should get to a place where we do no feel comfortable being in the same space where there is gossip or just negativity in general. I know that sometimes you cannot escape from hearing the He said…She said because you maybe at work, out to eat with friends, in the car with someone ect. What you could do is:
- find a way to change the conversation
- you could say something along the lines of “you know what guys instead of talking bout this person lets pray for them”
- you could tune them out
- Pray that whom ever is speaking against another person that the Love of God will over take them.
- If they ask you for your thoughts on the situation have no comment.
but whatever you do, DO NOT GET INVOLVED. This is pretty cliche everyone has said this at least once but Do unto others as you would want done unto you (Luke 6:31)
But I’m the being talked about ( Here is some Encouragement for you)
If you are the person who is being talked about I know that it’s easier said then done but just forgive and try to ignore. As long as you know who YOU are and know what is true and what is false that is all that matters. You do not need to explain yourself or prove yourself to ANYONE!!!! Some people may hear something that is completely true but then put a twist to it. Whatever you do please do not do evil for evil and spread rumors about them or talk about them to other people. I know how it feels to have people speak evil against you or about you and it hurts, makes you mad, makes you want to cry, but at the end of the day God loves you and knows the real you. What God thinks about you over rules what everyone else has to say or think.
People will talk whether your doing good or bad. When people speak about me and make up lies, rumors, I always say to myself “Well I must be doing something right because they just can’t seem to stop talking about me”. What people seem to forget is that not everyone is going to like you and will try to find fault with everything you do or even say, but what we must remember is that we are responsible for our response. You do not always have to have a response to everything. Sometimes silence is the best answer. Keep your head up, smile, know your worth and who you are, carry yourself as the beautiful/hansom wonderfully made person God created you to be. Things will get better and usually the people who try to bring others down with their words feel insecure or not good about themselves, so they feel that they need to bring others down so they can feel better about themselves.
God is the only one who can judge us and will judge us on judgment day. On judgement day we will ALL have to give an account on what we did or didn’t do while we were on the earth. As little as people may think that talking about one another is, that is not Okay in the eyes of God and we will have to answer for that. Especially as children of God we need to come up higher and not get into our flesh and let our emotions run us. We have 2 choices when we hear gossip we either take part in evil communications and submit to our flesh or submit to God and do what He would want us to do which is keep ALL evil communications out of our mouth.
Romans 12:14-18;Bless them which persecute you: bless, and curse not. Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep. Be of the same mind one toward another. Mind not high things, but condescend to men of low estate. Be not wise in your own conceits. Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men. If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.
So if you find yourself around people who all they do is gossip and speak about others downfalls you need to take yourself out of the equation. You need to continue to live the life that God has for you and not get caught up in the conversations that serve you no purpose.
- Set a Standard for yourself to not get involved in evil communication.
- Don’t indulge in negative conversations that does not uplift others.
- Bring the matter at hand to God in prayer.
- Love on the person/ Don’t change how you treat them because of what you heard
- Remember that you are a Child of God
- Do not do evil for evil
- Know who you are in Christ so when people say something about you it does not phase you.
- Pray for your enemies
- Give it God
- Know that God loves you no matter what and his love never fails.
- Bonus* Your ears are not trash cans… if its going to taint your spirit keep it out.
xoxox God Bless ❤