How Deep The Father’s Love For Us.



LOVE!!!  What a strong word that a lot of us use loosely. I don’t think that we have come to a full  understanding of what Love is. Yes, we all have or at least thought that we were once upon a time in Love. What I can say for sure is that the best definition and description of Love is God’s Love.  What is God’s Love? Well that is what we will discuss in today’s Blog.

 God’s Love:

A relationship with God is like no other relationship you may have experienced. There is nothing you can do to cause God to love you any more than He already does and there is nothing that will cause God to love you any less. There have been times that I even had to ask myself if God loved me, because I knew the behavior that I carried was not of God and he wouldn’t approve.  He loves you, even more than you love yourself. In the beginning of your life in  Christ, you will have found total love and acceptance. Now this could be hard to understand if you’ve never felt totally loved and accepted by anyone. But it’s true! Unfortunately, you won’t always feel that God loves you. There will be times when you find yourself doubting  His love and  you will want to give up…. BUT DON’T!!!

I can speak from experience that the Love of God is an experience. There are times that I’m unable to express the Love of God because it is just so great and indescribable! There are times I’m just happy and having a wonderful day, not because something happened or I did something but because that’s how the Love of God will make you feel. Just happy for no reason what so ever. It’s a just because moment. Think back in your life ( especially for those of us who were DEEEEPP in the world and had one toe in hell) think of all the crazy things you’ve done. Do you think that if God didn’t love you and care for you that through our crazy times he would save us from hell’s fire, correct us when walking out of line, give us men and women to watch over our souls, and give us multiple chances to get ourselves together? Knowing what you know now about God, his love, mercy and grace, would you go back and say just one last time for old time sake?  God loves us so much that even when were deep in sin and hurting not just ourselves but hurting Him as well that he didn’t give up on us.

Who do you know  would tolerate someone to rebel against them, walk in ignorance, betray them, say and do things that are hurtful time and time again? * I’ll wait*…. Right no one…. I guarantee that we’ve all done things that God should have said enough is enough and taken his hands of protection off of us and let the devil has his way.

Ways that God Loves Us:

 There are endless ways that God shows his love for us. I am sure that as I list some way that God demonstrates his love , you would probably realize that you’ve had some kind of encounter that is similar.

He Created You: ( Psalms 139)

With God creating each and every single one of us we need to understand that he did not just create us to be a body here on earth. He has designed us each for a certain purpose and plan. We all have a job that we have been given and it’s up to us to carry that plan out.

Christ Died for You: ( Romans 5:8)

Let’s just be real with ourselves. No one is going to die for you so that you can have a better life. We live in a society where it’s all about us and being selfish and not selfless. In Jesus’ case, God sent him for our benefit that through him we will live and live life more abundantly. If Jesus had not died for our sin’s we would not have the grace that we have which is to be forgiven and have a fresh  start and be made new in Christ.

He is  Jealous over you: ( Exodus 20:2-6)

God is a jealous God. He does not like  it when we give all of our time/ attention to things or people. I know when some of us hear the word “jealous” we may look at it as something negative but God’s jealousy is not like our jealousy! He is jealous because we are to make him the center of our life and he has BIG things in stored for us. If we don’t submit to God and let him have free course in our life, what he wanted to do in our life as far as blessings, prosperity ect He will bless someone else with it. God’s goal is t make sure that his children are blessed and taken care of, but He is unable to do so when we are putting things and people before him and only coming to him when we need something.

He wants a relationship with you: ( Jeremiah 29:11)

Even though God is a gentleman he won’t force himself on you. If you want a relationship with him then go and form a relationship, but if you choose to not have a relationship with him then so be it. God gives us ample opportunity to get to know him intimately. It’s up to us.

He Allows trials: (Proverbs 3:12)

When we go through different stages of life we may not understand why things may transpire. When we go through these stages in life of growth and maturity in Christ we learn to lean and rely on God. By us leaning and relying on God we see that he is capable of doing the impossible, and we can trust him and know that he will never leave us or forsake us No Matter What!!!

He gave us Jesus:( John 3:16, 1 John 4:9) 

The life of Jesus gives us hope. Because of him we can overcome sin and have eternal life. God wants you to know you are loved. You can more fully feel his love as you learn more about the life of Jesus.

He gives the Holy Spirit ( Romans 5:5)

Do you ever just feel good and peaceful and calm? Often this is the spirit of God whispering to your soul that you are loved. Through good days and bad days, God sends feelings of love to your heart. He wants you to know he cares.

 End Note:

If you would like to know more about God’s Love and get a better and deeper understanding of God’s Love for us there is no better place than the Bible. To get understanding of God’s love for you, take some time over the next few weeks and read Psalms 103, John 15, and 1 John 4, and note all the ways that God’s love is described.

If you are looking,
for unfailing love
then all you need
is to look above.

For God has sent,
the love of His Son
to fill the hearts
of everyone.

Jesus’ love for you,
is like no other kind
for it brings hope
and peace of mind.

His love is everlasting,
it never runs dry
He loves you so much
He was willing to die.

If you are looking,
for a love that’s ceaseless
then all you have to do . . .
is look to Jesus!

Copyright 2016
Deborah Ann Belka


Psalm 13:5

“But I have trusted in thy mercy;
my heart shall rejoice
in thy salvation.”

                                                                                                          xoxo…God Bless 

Lady Of Purity!


Purity is not just about virginity. It’s also about dignity, Purity is not restricted to femininity,but requires the protection of chivalry,and regard for responsibility. Purity is not innocence out of ignorance, it’s making a choice that’s different. Even when facing a challenge. Purity is not just about hiding behind a white veil, or donning a white, spotless gown. It’s about going through a season of waiting, even if it can be tough. Purity is not just a state of being, it’s a state of knowing, valuing and protecting… The sacredness of a marriage. The loyalty to one’s spouse. The unity of two to form one flesh. Not giving up one’s body to all the rest, but leaving it for God’s best. -Esther Pang Hui Min 

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There are many different ways that you could view purity. You could view purity as being sexually pure , spiritually pure, your heart being pure. The Purity that I am speaking on today is Sexual Pureness.  We live in a day and age where everyone is having sex left and right, from all age ranges as young as 15 (maybe even younger). Unfortunately we don’t hear a lot of Women and even Men encouraging their peers to respect themselves and their bodies. It’s important that we set a standard and set limits in a relationship, have someone hold us accountable and pursue a vibrant relationship with God. In doing these things we won’t fall into temptation. Yes, we will be tempted but we have a better chance of not going through with it.

If you’ve already gave yourself to another person do not get discouraged and do not feel condemned. It is not too late to be made whole and new in Christ ( we will get into that later). Below are reasons why it is important to wait.

God Wants Us To Wait:

As believers in Christ we all should know that our bodies are not our own. We were bought with a price which was God dying on the cross for us.  Making the decision to give your body to another person is a real big decision and I think it should be taken serious because there are consequences at the end of the day. The world views sex as just another thing, no big deal, everyone is doing it, but God said that we are to separate from the world and not be as unbelievers.

I can promise you that if you’re in a relationship that having sex with your partner will not make them stay with you and could cause problems, lead to unexpected pregnancies ,STD’s, etc. Never think that you know more than your heavenly father who created sex.

The Story of Ruth ( A Love Story):

The story of Ruth offers us an insight into how the blessings and guidance of God can be bestowed even in difficult times. Ruth, as we shall see, committed her life to helping others; and as a result, she was blessed by God for her faithfulness.

There was man from Bethlehem named Elimelech who went to live temporarily in the country of Moab with his wife and two son’s due to a famine.  Elimelech’s wife’s name was Naomi and his son’s names were Mahlon and Chilion. They were Ephrathites from Bethlehem. Naomi’s Husband passed away and she was left a widow with two sons to raise. Fast forward  the sons took wives from the Moabite women; the name of their wives were Orpah and Ruth. They lived there ten years and then both Mahlon and Chilion also died, so now Ruth and Orpah are now widows and Naomi is without both of her sons.

Naomi, Orpah and Ruth set out to go back to the country of Moab because they heard how the Lord took care of his people (of Judah) in giving them food. On their way back to Judah Naomi thought that it would be best if her daughter in laws return to their mothers house.  Naomi was saying her goodbyes and wishing them well and gave them a kiss. They didn’t want to leave Naomi in this time of mourning and sorrow, but Naomi was not sure why they would want to stay. So Naomi asked them” why should you go with me? Do I still have sons in my womb that may become your husbands?” She told them to go because she is too old to have a husband. Naomi also said ” If I said I have hope, and find a husband tonight and even gave birth to sons, would you wait until they were grown? No my daughters; for it is much more difficult for me than for you, because the Lord’s hand has gone against me”.  Orpha decided to leave Naomi but Ruth stayed loyal and did not leave Naomi’s side. Naomi tried one more time to convince Ruth to follow her sister in law Orpha and go back to their native land,  but Ruth declined once again and said where you go i go,and wherever you lodge, I will lodge; your people shall be my people, and your God, my God. .

Naomi and Ruth then traveled to Bethlehem and when they arrived the whole city was stirred up because of them. Naomi was known in Bethlehem because she once lived there but when she returned she did not want to be called Naomi which meant “sweetness” but wanted to be called Mara which means “bitter” because she felt that the Almighty has caused her great grief and bitterness.  The time that Naomi and Ruth came back to Bethlehem it was harvest time so Ruth felt that it would be best if she found work. Ruth found work in a field that so happen to belong to a man named Boaz, he was a man of great wealth and influence.

Boaz returned from Bethlehem and saw a new face in his field and asked the reapers who she was. They told Boaz that she was the young Moabite who came back with Naomi (her Mother-In-Law) from the country of Moab. The reapers told Boaz that she asked if she could gather after the reapers among the sheaves.  So Boaz approaches Ruth and tells her that she can stay and work in his field but stay close by the maids (for her own safety of not being harassed by the male servants). Boaz basically told Ruth whatever you want you can have. Ruth asked Boaz ” Why have I found favor in your eyes that you should notice me, when I am a foreigner” and Boaz answered ” I have been made fully aware of everything you have done for your mother-in-law since the death of your husband and how you have left your father and mother and the land of your birth, and have come to people that you did not know before.

Later that day Boaz invited Ruth to come have a meal with him. After they ate Boaz allowed Ruth to go out in the field and collect grain for her to take home. Ruth afterwards went home to Naomi and showed her all that she was blessed with and brought her some food that she saved for Naomi as well. Naomi asked Ruth who blessed her with so much and that who ever this person was that he would be blessed as well. Ruth then tells Naomi that his name was Boaz, Naomi was surprised and said that Boaz was a close relative of hers.

Naomi then gives Ruth instructions on what to do next which was to find out if he would be winnowing barley at the threshing floor that night, and anoint  herself with olive oil, then put on her best clothes and go down to the threshing floor. Naomi told Ruth to stay out of Boaz’s sight until he is done eating and drinking. When he lies down notice the place where he is laying down and go uncover his feet and lie down. So Ruth did just that, in the middle of the night Boaz wakes up to Ruth laying by his feet and he is startled. He wakes up and says “who are you?” Ruth replies and says ” I am Ruth your maid, spread the hem of your garment over me, for you are a closer relative and redeemer”. Boaz says the Ruth“May you be blessed by the Lord, my daughter. You have made your last kindness better than the first; for you have not gone after young men, whether poor or rich. Now, my daughter, do not be afraid. I will do for you whatever you ask, since all my people in the city know that you are a woman of excellence.

The relationship developed further, and God used Boaz himself to fulfill this blessing as the redeemer . After satisfying some of the minor details of the ancient laws concerning widows and inheritance, Boaz and Ruth were married and became one.

Looking at the story of Ruth, her being a widow and going through a lot with her Mother- in-law, she could have walked in her flesh and threw herself at Boaz at the first hint of him having interest in her. When Ruth went to go lay down at the feet of Boaz she could have tried to take advantage of Boaz while he was sleeping but she didn’t. She was obedient and followed the instructions that her Mother-In-Law gave her. When Ruth laid down at the feet of Boaz that was a way of showing subjection to Boaz as her nearest of kin. This was letting him know that if he would wish to take legal action for the better of Ruth and her Mother-In- Law that he had an opportunity. This was not an act of seduction but an act of obedience to God for his provision for her in that day.

2 Things That We Can Take From The Story of Ruth:

1) God notices people of good character

2)All that is good and worthwhile will come to us if we are patient and commit ourselves to doing what is right in the eyes of God.

Why Should I Stay Pure?

When a lady becomes one with man, or man with a woman, before marriage you connect on a level that causes you to have emotional, physical, and spiritual disconnection.  What I mean by that is, when you give yourself to someone you become emotionally attached to that person (this is more so for the women). We become so emotionally attached that we in a way can become possessive and we are consistently thinking about that person 24/7.  Physically we crave to the point where we feel like we need them physically everyday, and we have formed something also known as a soul tie (which is more spiritual than physical). Lastly, we become spiritually disconnected. When we connected with someone sexually we become to engrossed and focused on them that we put our partner before God. That’s dangerous because we have a jealous God who does not want anything or anybody taking his place or being put before him.

Here are some other reasons why staying pure is important:

  • Sex is very powerful. It can make you feel a false love with someone and when you break up you will see you were deceived. 

( Jeremiah 17:9 The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it

  • Your body is NOT your own.

( 1 Corinthians 3:16-17 Do you not know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you? If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy him. For God’s temple is holy, and you are that temple.)

  • We must be a good example for the world because we are the light. Don’t cause people to talk bad about God and Christianity.

(1 Timothy 4:12 Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity.)

  • You won’t feel guilty and ashamed.

(Hebrews 4:12 For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.)

  • If you have truly repented and believe in Jesus Christ  for your salvation you will be a new creature. If God truly saved you and you are truly a Christian, you will not continue a  lifestyle of sin. You know what the Bible says, but you rebel and say, “who cares Jesus died for me I can sin all I want” or you try to find any way you can to justify your sins. 

(Hebrews 10:26-27 For if we go on sinning deliberately after receiving the knowledge of the truth, there no longer remains a sacrifice for sins, but a fearful expectation of judgment, and a fury of fire that will consume the adversaries.)

  •  Through all the temptations together you waited and you will glorify the Lord with your new spouse. You both shall become one with Christ and it will be an amazing once in a lifetime experience.

(1 Corinthians 10:31 So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.)

My Mind vs My Body!

The Mind is a very powerful thing and could make us do things that we normally wouldn’t do. The brain is part of the nervous system, which goes through the body, and the brain controls production of hormones and releases chemicals linked with different emotional states. Most people don’t realize the extent to which their mind has control over their own body. For example you could visualize yourselves eating something sour and your mouth starts to get produce a lot more saliva then usual (yuck).

 Once you’ve connected with someone on the level of becoming one, your body starts to crave them and emotions that you thought would not form could start to develop and you become attached. Before you know it, all you can think about is him/her and you just want to be around him/her. That’s why it is best to wait until marriage. Sex was created for marriage, it was a gift from God.

I Am No Longer Pure What Now?

Even though we make mistakes and some of us may have already gave ourselves sexually you can still be made over. When you become a believer and even if you are already a believer you can be born again. When you are born again in Christ that means that  you make a vow between you and God that you will no longer engage in any sexual activity until you are MARRIED. You are to keep yourself pure until that special day!  So repent, make a new vow/commitment to God, and stay pure and close to God. You can pray the prayer below if you need to confess and make a new vow/commitment to God.





End Note:

Sex is a gift from God. Not a present to your boyfriend. That’s Fornication. A virtuous woman will wait. Run away from temptations, be patient.  Don’t take advantage of what God created for good. In the long run you will be so glad you waited and God will reward you on that special day. If you happened to have sex repent, sin no more, and pursue purity.

The Power of Prayer!

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The devil saw me with my head down and got excited, then I said "AMEN".

What is Prayer?

Prayer is communication between you and God. Prayer is a way that we get to know God and grow spiritually.

What Prayer Is and Isn’t.

Prayer is not just something we do to get things. We should not only pray when we see that we need a breakthrough, we need bills paid, we need a helpmate, or materialistic things. It should be a part of our daily walk and we need to pray on a daily basis concerning all things. Our main focus for prayer should be for souls (lost souls) to be saved and get an opportunity to spend eternal life in heaven.

True prayer is what happens when our will is aligned with the will of God, and we pray according to the word of God. Prayer is our connection to heaven and heaven’s connection to us. That is why it is important to keep the lines of communication open, as well as our hearts!

Types of Prayer we should Pray?

A: Adoration (worship)

                 C: Confession ( of specific sins) 

           T: Thanksgiving ( gratitude) 

                         S: Supplication: ( specific requests) 


Jesus taught us in the Lord’s prayer, which starts off with, “Our Father which art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name” (Matthew 6:9 KJV). This identifies who we are talking to and the reverence that we have for him.  A good example of this type of adoration is found in Psalm 95:1–7 (KJV). When we take time to praise and worship God in our prayers, we are placing God where He rightfully belongs.


The closer we draw to God, the more we sense our own sinfulness. In Isaiah 6:5, Isaiah says  “Woe is me, for I am undone! When we confess our sins it gives God room to move on our behalf. If we do not become humble, swallow our pride and confess our sins, we put up a barrier which causes God to not hear our prayer. “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us” (1 John 1:9). A lot of people complain about their prayers not being answered or their prayers being delayed. Well, you may want to reflect and see if you’ve confessed your sins unto God.


After confession, should be thanksgiving. We should be thankful that God had cleansed and forgiven us. In Psalm 32:1 David said, “Blessed is he whose transgression is forgiven” . We should not only give thanks because everything is going perfectly in our lives or because we are in a good mood. We should give thanks because God deserves our praise. By giving thanks we show gratitude for what we have. We prevent our focus from shifting to what we do not have.


Too often in prayer we start with requests instead of spending time in devotion, confession, and thanksgiving first. At the end of the day, God does want to hear our needs and requests. Philippians 4:6–7 (KJV) says;”Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God” .

How to Pray Effectively

Keep Your Motives Pure:

Motive is everything in prayer. In Matthew 6:5, it is a sin to pray insincerely. We can still be guilty of hypocrisy and self-centeredness in our prayers. It is sad but true. Sin knows no boundaries. It can follow us to the very throne of heaven. As we come to God in prayer, we should make sure that we “cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God” (2 Corinthians 7:1 KJV). Otherwise, our prayers will not be effective. David wrote “If I regard iniquity in my heart, the Lord will not hear” (Psalm 66:18).

Recognize the Objective of Prayer:

Jesus gives us a valuable insight into prayer when He says, “Your Father knows the things you have need of before you ask Him” (Matthew 6:8). Prayer is not instructing or bending His arm. Prayer is not to bend the will of God to mine, but to get my will in line with His. True praying is not overcoming God’s unwillingness, but laying hold of His willingness.

Why Should We Pray?

Jesus told us to pray:

Luke 18:1 (KJV) :And he spake a parable unto them to this end, that men ought always to pray, and not to faint; Jesus commanded us to pray. It gets no better than that. That is a perfect reason that we are to pray. #obedience.

Prayer is God’s appointed way of obtaining things:

James 4:2 (AMP) says: You are jealous and covet [what others have] and your lust goes unfulfilled; so you murder. You are envious and cannot obtain [the object of your envy]; so you fight and battle. You do not have because you do not ask [it of God].

The reason why a lot of us have questions about things pertaining to our walk with God and what he has called us to do, is mainly because we do no ask. God wants us to experience the blessings of seeing our prayers answered, such as the salvation of a loved one, a divine healing, or a wonderful provision. But we first have to ask.

Prayer is the way God helps us to overcome our anxiety and worry:

Philippians 4:6-7 (AMP) Do not be anxious or worried about anything, but in everything [every circumstance and situation] by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, continue to make your [specific] requests known to God. And the peace of God [that peace which reassures the heart, that peace] which transcends all understanding, [that peace which] stands guard over your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus [is yours].

When we put our trust and faith into God, and knowing that whatever we ask will come to pass, we do not have time to worry about things not coming to fruition because of our Faith in God. As we pray we should pray with thanksgiving. It is important to know who God is and what He is capable of doing. When you know what kind of God you serve, you’ll know that there is nothing too hard for God. He can do things that we in the natural sense could never imagine happening.

Prayer is one of the ways we make ourselves ready for the return of Jesus Christ.

Luke 21: 34-36 (AMP):  “But be on guard, so that your hearts are not weighed down and depressed with the giddiness of debauchery and the nausea of self-indulgence and the worldly worries of life, and then that day [when the Messiah returns] will not come on you suddenly like a trap;  for it will come upon all those who live on the face of all the earth.  But keep alert at all times [be attentive and ready], praying that you may have the strength and ability [to be found worthy and] to escape all these things that are going to take place, and to stand in the presence of the Son of Man [at His coming].”

The more we pray,stay faithful and seek God he will give us revelation. We all know that he is coming soon. We may not know when he is coming ( He (Jesus)  doesn’t even know when He’s coming back), but the fact that we know that he is returning will motivate us to continue to pray and grow in him.  You do not want to be left behind during the rapture, so being obedient and praying as God has commanded us to will prepare us for what is to come. Draw closer to God.

Last Words:

 In order to have a successful prayer life and to become a power house for God, we must stay away from selfishness, having idols, unforgiveness, unconfessed sin, and a  lack of faith. With those specific sins we hinder and ruin our prayer life. So continue to pray and believe that everything you’ve been praying for will come to pass.