It is currently 8:40 am and I had to get out of bed and start to blog. This topic has been heavy on my heart. It is time for us to come out of People Bondage!
I believe that from this point on WE, Yes You and myself will be free from people, how they feel about us, and what they say about us.
I was laying in bed and I rolled over to check what time it was, and it was about 7:40 am. So I roll back over to go back to sleep ( mind you it is Saturday I need my sleep). As I am forcing myself to go back to sleep the enemy starts to taunt me with thoughts that I know are straight from hell. Back story these past few months I’ve been going through A LOT. I have been dealing with my emotions and keeping my mind, I was in such pain and hurt like I’ve never been before because of things and actions done from people. My mind was being attacked with images of such evil and wickedness, things that are not my character, the thoughts and words of hurt that have been said to me by people who I cared so much for. It was pretty intense. I never felt so much hurt, negativity, pain and a sense of loneliness and feeling lost. I was pleading the blood over my mind and casting down every wicked imagination that was being sent to my mind. It got so bad I had to get up out of bed and seek God.
Who would’ve thought that people bondage could be so strong. How many of us care about what others think/ view us? How many of us care what other say about us? How many of us want to please everyone else but in the meantime fail to pay attention to your own needs? How many of us try to fit in / be accepted by others by any means? If you have said yes to all or even one there is people bondage.
“STOP ENTERTAINING RELATIONSHIPS THAT PULL YOU BACK TO PLACES THAT GOD FREED YOU FROM.. IF GOD BLOCKED IT DON’T STALK IT”
I know it’s easier said than done when people say to ” Stop caring what others say about you or how others feel about you”. We all have feelings and emotions and that’s okay, that just means we are human. There comes a point however when you have to tell your emotions what to do and where to go. We can’t be led by our emotions. When we are led by our emotions we let spirits of bitterness, anger, resentment, unforgiveness, strife, ect to seep through and taint your heart/spirit. You have to know who YOU are not let the way people look at you SHAPE how you view yourself. I am speaking to myself right now. I am someone who care about others and has a BIG heart for people, so when I have a fall out or something happens in the friendship/relationship to where it won’t be the same again, it bothers me to my core.
When dealing with people who may not like or care for us we have to remember“For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ –2 Corinthians 10:3-5). There is a spirit behind the issues, it is not the person who we have an issue with but the spirit behind it. The enemy loves to bring contention and division in the body of Christ or even in your family dynamic. So he will make it seem like the issue is with the person but it is really a spirit. Sometimes some issues are better off being left at the feet of Jesus. We do not need to fight every battle that comes our way. Pick and choose your battles wisely.
The Lord had to show me that some of the friendships that ended drastically or “out of the blue” had to happen because where He was taking me they couldn’t go. God also wanted to show me who they really were. Sometimes we are can be blinded by seeing the good in them that we miss red flags that are right in our face. So sometimes it’s for the best that you be free from some people. It will hurt and be painful but it will be worth it and beneficial in the end.
“It is important that we know who we are and love ourselves. This way when people try to come and tear you down it has no effect on you because you know your worth and your value and you will not let anyone to come and say other wise.”
“Deal with your enemies the way that the Lord commanded us to”
No matter what happens between you and other people never let unforgiveness, bitterness, anger, resentment, hate, strife ect, get build up in your heart towards them. Pray for them daily, you never know what they are going through or what they went through at a young age that they have yet to deal with and get delivered from. When you walk around with wickedness in your heart towards others you are only poisoning yourself with those emotions. They are living their best life and you’re over here stressing, looking angry, distraught and silly. If you walk righteous before God and continue to serve him faithfully and with a pure heart, he will deal with your enemies.
Reminder: Just because you forgive them that does not mean that you need to starting hanging out with them again.
When we get free from people and what they say, act or feel about us, nothing will be able to bring us down. People can be our biggest downfall but always
8 ways to deal with people: ( just a few tips)
Accept that not everyone is going to like you
Try to put a positive spin on what they are saying
Be aware of your own emotions
Don’t take it personally and get some space
PICK YOUR BATTLES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Don’t be defensive
Express how you feel calmly and have someone to mediate ( someone mature and wise)
AND LAST BUT NOT LEAST ( MY FAV)
Ultimately remember that you are in control of your own happiness.
I pray that you received something from this. My prayer is that we will take back our life and our happiness. No longer will we let other control us! IT’S TIME TO BREAK FREE!!!!!