Tug Of War



Who has ever played Tug of War when they were growing up? For those of you who are not familiar with Tug of War it is a sport that directly puts two teams against each other in a test of strength: teams pull on opposite ends of a rope, with the goal being to bring the rope a certain distance in one direction against the force of the opposing team’s pull.

There are moments in life where we can get swept away with the movements around us. It could be you know you need to cut certain people out of your life but your afraid of what will happen once you’ve let them go, or you are being delivered from alcohol, drugs, porn, masturbation ect, but the sin keeps call you and your straddling the fence on should you satisfy your flesh or deny it. You know God is a forgiving God so you try to use that as an excuse to sin and cover up the guilt and shame you feel. 

If you have or are going through this you are not alone. I battle with things constantly. I tend to go back and forth whether it be in my mind/thoughts and emotions. I know what God expects from me and what he would like for me to refrain from, However it is easier said then done sometimes. We know we should live for Christ at all times and be obedient but on the other hand we have times where doing it our way seems to be easier and self gratifying. In reality thats a lie. The more we go against the Word of God the further we push ourselves away from Him.

The devils goal is for us to stray away from God, to get us to the point where we become self-righteous, self-centered, keyword: SELF! Satan wants us to think that we don’t need God we can do it all by ourselves which by the way is a lie straight from hell. This is why the enemy attacks our mind and heart, those two combined is a powerful thing. The devil will have you think “if I do it this once I won’t do it again” or  ” God doesn’t expect me to be perfect so if I repent afterwards it will all well with my soul”. The bible says in

James 4:17; Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to Him it is SIN!

There is a TEST!!!

In the beginning when I was explaining how the game of Tug Of War one thing stood out to me, when I wrote “puts two teams against each other in a test of strength” that spoke to me. I envisions an angel on one shoulder  and a devil on the other shoulder. On one side you have the angel speak life and keeping you in the will/ alignment of God, and on the other you have the devil speaking deceit, lies, death, confusion, just a lot of mess in your ear. Of course what the devil is saying is speaking to your soul because he is saying what you want to hear and you try to tune out the right and holy things out because that’s causing you to kill your flesh.

What are your strengths? What are your weaknesses? As believers we know that God is not a liar and everything he speaks ALWAYS comes to pass right? So when we are in the game of Tug Of War we are in a test to see how faithful and honorable we are to God. In the middle of  the chaos are we giving room for the enemy to come in and bring suggestions and confusion? Or are we speaking life and the word of God  into the situation? When we are going through are we to focused on what we see in the natural that we forget that our God can make what looks impossible possible? While we are going through are we murmuring and complaining or are we rebuking every thought that is not of God?

The way that we deal with situations shows and proves our faithfulness, loyalty, love, honor and trust that we have in God. Now when we sit and let Satan minister to us instead of God, that is how we walk ourselves right out of the will of God and into disaster. Th devil may be tugging at you trying to deceive you with thoughts like ” You serve God and he says he will never leave you nor forsake you but where is he? Why are you in this predicament? Believe it or not the devil knows scripture as well  but he will twist it, this is why it is important to be able to discern and know Gods’ voice versus the devils. Don’t be afraid to speak back to that lying wonder. Let him know ” Yes, My God will NEVER leave me nor FORSAKE me and no matter what I am faced with I know HE will bring me through. I am more than a conqueror, I am His Child and he Loves me! I rebuke you in the name of JESUS and I cast down every spirit of confusion, chaos, deceit, doubt, fear and lie that you try to send my way. You are a liar and there is no truth in you” You have to let that foul devil know you are not the one. 

How to Get Through:

I want to help you guys out with some things that I have done that have helped me overcome certain areas in my life that I needed deliverance from. They say if you do something consistently for 21 days it becomes a habit. So i want to challenge you all to try these tips below for 21 days and see your life transform.

  1. Seek God Daily- Find scripture on whatever it is you are struggling with and meditate on it, let it get DEEEEEP DOWN in your spirit.
  2. Pray- Prayer changes everything. Prayer is one powerful weapon to cast down and destroy all works of the enemy.
  3. Stay away from triggers- If you want to be delivered from:
  • Drinking- stay away from bars, clubs, liquor stores, atmospheres that would make you weak and cave in. If need be eliminate people out of your life who won’t help you overcome or support/ encourage you stay on the straight and narrow path.
  • Porn– Stay off the websites. If you have to stay off the stores,computers, phone any technology that would allow you to view that material. Even fast from technology and when you get the urge to satisfy the flesh Pray. 
  • Masturbation– This goes hand in hand with Porn. Stay away from TV Shows, magazines, conversation, music that could trigger feelings.  When you get the urge deny the flesh get on your face and pray cry out to God. 
  • Drugs– delete that dealers number out your phone, ignore every call that comes to your phone that you know is going to cause nothing but issues. 
  • Gossip- When people come to you with he say/she say or “did you hear” let them know you do not want to hear anything that is not of God. Dismiss it and keep it pushing. Do not get swept in. If you can’t leave and you’re stuck lets say your in a car and gossip is being told DO NOT ENGAGED! If anything just say we should pray for them.  Use your mouth for good not evil.
  • Unforgivness,Pride,Strife..……and the list goes on. 

4)  Have someone who can hold you Accountable– When you are having a weak moment it’s good to have someone who will listen and not judge but at the same time let you know what thus saith the Lord and do it with LOVE. 

5) Stay in the Church. Keep getting fed, stay encouraged,God has given us Shepard to watch over our souls if you need counseling go and speak to your leaders. They will help you. I know some people prefer therapists and counselors whatever your comfortable with just seek help. 

                                    Matthew 26:41 ; Watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation; the Spirit is willing,but the flesh is weak. 

I love you all, stay encouraged and be blessed ❤


xoxo. ZM

Free your Mind Of People Bondage

It is currently 8:40 am and I had to get out of bed and start to blog. This topic has been heavy on my heart. It is time for us to come out of People Bondage!

I believe that from this point on WE, Yes You and myself will be free from people, how they feel about us, and what they say about us.

I was laying in bed and I rolled over to check what time it was, and it was about 7:40 am. So I roll back over to go back to sleep ( mind you it is Saturday I need my sleep). As I am forcing myself to go back to sleep the enemy starts to taunt me with thoughts that I know are straight from hell. Back story these past few months I’ve been going through A LOT. I have been dealing with my emotions and keeping my mind, I was in such pain and hurt like I’ve never been before because of things and actions done from people. My mind was being attacked with images of such evil and wickedness, things that are not my character, the thoughts and words of hurt that have been said to me by people who I cared so much for.  It was pretty intense. I never felt so much hurt, negativity, pain and a sense of loneliness and feeling lost. I was pleading the blood over my mind and casting down every wicked imagination that was being sent to my mind. It got so bad I had to get up out of bed and seek God.

Who would’ve thought that people bondage could be so strong. How many of us care about what others think/ view us? How many of us care what other say about us? How many of us want to please everyone else but in the meantime fail to pay attention to your own needs? How many of us try to fit in / be accepted by others by any means? If you have said yes to all or even one there is  people bondage.


I know it’s easier said than done when people say to ” Stop caring what others say about you or how others feel about you”. We all have feelings and emotions and that’s okay, that just means we are human. There comes a point however when you have to tell your emotions what to do and where to go. We can’t be led by our emotions. When we are led by our emotions we let spirits of bitterness, anger, resentment, unforgiveness, strife, ect to seep through and taint your heart/spirit. You have to know who YOU are not let the way people look at you SHAPE how you view yourself. I am speaking to myself right now. I am someone who  care about others and has a BIG heart for people, so when I have a fall out or something happens in the friendship/relationship to where it won’t be the same again, it bothers me to my core.

When dealing with people who may not like or care for us we have to rememberFor though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ –2 Corinthians 10:3-5). There is a spirit behind the issues, it is not the person who we have an issue with but the spirit behind it.  The enemy loves to bring contention and division in the body of Christ or even in your family dynamic. So he will make it seem like the issue is with the person but  it is really a spirit. Sometimes some issues are better off being left at the feet of Jesus. We do not need to fight every battle that comes our way. Pick and choose your battles wisely. 

The Lord had to show me that some of the friendships that ended drastically or “out of the blue” had to happen because where He was taking me they couldn’t go.  God also  wanted to show me who they really were. Sometimes we are can be blinded by seeing the good in them that we miss red flags that are right in our face.  So sometimes it’s for the best that you be free from some people. It will hurt and be painful but it will be worth it and beneficial in the end. 

“It is important that we know who we are and love ourselves. This way when people try to come and tear you down it has no effect on you because you know your worth and your value and you will not let anyone to come and say other wise.”

“Deal with your enemies the way that the Lord commanded us to”

No matter what happens between you and other people never let unforgiveness, bitterness, anger, resentment, hate, strife ect, get build up in your heart towards them. Pray for them daily, you never know what they are going through or what they went through at a young age that they have yet to deal with and get delivered from. When you walk around with wickedness in your heart towards others you are only poisoning yourself with those emotions. They are living their best life and you’re over here stressing, looking angry, distraught and silly. If you walk righteous before God and continue to serve him faithfully and with a pure heart, he will deal with your enemies.

Reminder: Just because you forgive them that does not mean that you need to starting hanging out with them again. 

When we get free from people and what they say, act or feel about us, nothing will be able to bring us down. People can be our biggest downfall but always

8 ways to deal with people: ( just a few tips)

Accept that not everyone is going to like you

Try to put a positive spin on what they are saying

Be aware of your own emotions

Don’t take it personally and get some space

PICK YOUR BATTLES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Don’t be defensive

Express how you feel calmly and have someone to mediate ( someone mature and wise)


 Ultimately remember that you are in control of your own happiness.

I pray that you received something from this. My prayer is that we will take back our life and our happiness. No longer will we let other control us! IT’S TIME TO BREAK FREE!!!!! 

God Bless