He Is Jealous For me

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John 15:5; I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing.

Have you ever craved someone’s attention so bad that you would do whatever you needed to do to get their attention? When I think of that illustration it makes me think of  how God is when it comes to His children. God loves us so much and he wants us to want him! God will allow things to happen in our life to get our attention and also grace us with another chance to come to him! People may question Why is it so important to  have a relationship with God? As believers we come across a lot of obstacles not saying that people in the world don’t, but the obstacles that we face we can’t face them like everyone else. Having a relationship with God will help you make the right decisions, it will help you deny your flesh and deal with situations in a way that will avoid confusion and chaos. 

When you have a relationship with God he can speak to you in a moment where you feel lost, you will have a bond with Him that no one else has. You won’t have to question if he is with you, if he is listening because you know who he is and He is in you. God gave us his love without conditions, he just wants us to draw close and commune with Him. How amazing is that? In the world we live in today we have to be mindful of who we build relationships with because people have ulterior motives… but not God! When we build a relationship or better yet a foundation in Christ we don’t have to look over our shoulder or question Him because HE IS LOVE AND HE IS PURE!! 

“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.
                                     
   Date Nights with my Lord!
During my current season of Singleness I have built a pretty solid relationship with Jesus to the point to where I have date nights with him. I know it sounds silly! But I truly  enjoy them! The night would consist of worship , the word, prayer, and me talking to God. I would  literally have conversations with God about every and anything! Keep in mind when talking to God he hates murmuring and complaining so try not to complain =) . There is something about sitting at His feet and being able to  just soak in his presence, there is such a peace that comes over me and nothing else matters to me at that moment.  I find it that in my single season that’s where my relationship with God has grown a lot because there are no distractions aka boyfriends!  
I want us to take a moment and evaluate our relationship status! If I were to give you a piece of paper that asked you what’s your Marital Status with Jesus what box would you check off?
Single? – You love your freedom, dance to the beat of your own drum, no accountability, one minute you want God next minute you want your flesh.
“It’s complicated”? – You know to do right  and want to do right but you are on the fence on whether or not you want to do right! You are torn in between stages! 
Engaged?– you’re in a relationship with God, but your still trying to figure things out and getting your commitment to where it needs to be so you can be all he has called you to be.
Married?– You’re fully committed, all you want is God.. you have eyes for no one but HIM!  He is the first person you think about when you wake up to and the last person you think about  before you go to bed. You live on purpose for Him,
Divorced?– You feel overwhelmed, suffocated, can’t candle it! Rather do this thing we call life on your own… Your better off alone and doing things the way YOU want.
Which one would you choose? 
How can I deepen my relationship with God? 
  • Seek God On Purpose; Isaiah 55:6-7; Seek the Lord while he may be found; call upon him while he is near; let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts; let him return to the Lord, that he may have compassion on him, and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.

You do not have to wait for something to happen for you to seek God. Unfortunately it takes drastic measures to get people to see God. Seek him on purpose. Do not wait for a feeling just do it! If you wait to “feel” like seeking God you may never do it .

  • Deny your flesh; Galatians 5:19-21;Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

I cannot stress this more and more we need to DENY! DENY! DENY! our flesh. The word says our spirit is willing but our flesh is weak! Our inner man ( spirit) wants that relationship with God but because we are wrapped in flesh, born and shaped in iniquity the temptations around us tend to look more appealing and satisfying than what we know is right. When you get to the point where you can deny your flesh and have self control it will be hard for the enemy  to dangle bait in your face and you take it, because you have self-control and a relationship with God.

  • Separate Yourself: 1 Corinthians 7:15; But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.

Distance is most of the time necessary! When you spend time by yourself you don’t have distractions. You can spend time with God learning about him, growing in him, letting him do a work in you that will draw you to your purpose. Most of the time when you seperate yourself from the crowd God will show you the people who you surround yourself with. Sometimes the people who we surround ourselves with is what is causing confusion, distance from God,  chaos, and just unnecessary issues.

  • Pray: 1 Thessalonians 5:17; Pray without ceasing,

Last but not least….PRAY!! Your prayer life is the way we communicate with God. Communication with God is what helps our relationship with him grow and become strong.

So I want to challenge you guys to have date nights, or quiet time with God. Let him minister to you. Get to know him and build a relationship with him.

I hope this blessed you and encouraged you as well.

xoxo.. Z.M.

It’s time to walk in your assignment!

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“One of my biggest fears as a believer is being  disobedient and out of the will of God that I miss my calling and the souls that God called me  to win for HIS  Kingdom their blood is now on my hands.” 

I heard a testimony of two young ladies one was a Christian (we will name her “Josie) and the other friend was a Christian as well but I don’t think her walk with God was as strong as Josie’s, anyway we will name her ( Diane). They were best of friends. The Lord would unction Josie to invite her friend Diane to church, Josie’s father was a Pastor and a Mighty man of God. Josie wanted to invite her friend but for some reason never did. Josie would ignore the unction of the Holy Spirit. This happened on multiple occasions but she never obeyed what she was being told to do. Josie had many, many opportunities to invite her friend to church since they were always together. Long story short behind closed does Diane was battling within herself.  Diane was very depressed and suicidal , she never showed this side to anyone so Josie assumed she had her life together and was happy with everything.

One day Josie realized that she had not seen her friend  Diane in a while. Josie asked someone if they had seen Diane,  and that was when Josie was hit with news that changed her life forever! Josie’s best friend had took her fathers gun and shot herself in the head. Josie said that her best friends blood was now on her hands because of her disobedience to invite her to church. If she would have listened to the Holy Spirit her friend could have possibly still be here. 

Ever since I heard that testimony I made a vow to myself that I will do what God tells me to do even if I do not understand. I rather be obedient then be disobedient and set myself up for disaster and embarrassment. 

When we are being led by the Holy Spirit to do something especially if it is uncomfortable or not “normal” JUST DO IT. We do not need to know why!  We are responsible for telling others about the gospel. Psalm 96:3; Declare his glory among the heathen, his wonders among all people. If they do not want to listen or if they listen but still continue in their old ways then their blood is not on your hands, because you have told them and warned them about what the gospel says. 

Many of us are afraid to correct one another on things that are not of God.  If you see your brother or sister doing or acting a way that is not of Christ it is important that we hold them accountable, remind them what God commands of them and make sure you do it with Love and not as if your belittling them. The way that you go about handling a someone is important, if you handle someone in a way that condemns and not convicts that can cause them to pull away from God. Conviction is different from condemnation because Conviction leads to life for the believer. We must never ignore the Holy Spirits loving discipline. Conviction may hurt in the moment, but unlike condemnation, it will lead to more joy in the end.

  •  Condemnation Leads to Death. Conviction Leads to Life
  • Condemnation Is for the Unbeliever. Conviction Is for the Believer
  • Humans Bring Condemnation. The Holy Spirit Brings Conviction

Romans 8:1;There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.

I know that there are young people who feel like they are too young to be used. Some think that they have to be a certain age, or have to have gone through some tough times to be used. You are not to young and God will use you regardless of what you have or have not been through. If you look in the book of Jeremiah he was used as a Teenager. Maybe the “tween” ages I am not exactly sure what age he was. In the book of Jeremiah Chapter 1 verses 4- 10 it speaks on how God tells Jeremiah that he knew him before he was formed in his mother’s womb, before he was born and chose him to do a special work. How awesome is that? Your not even formed yet let alone even thought of and God already had a purpose and calling for your life. .God called Jeremiah to be a prophet to the nations. Jeremiah’s response to God is “ I don’t know how to speak. I am only a Boy”. Jeremiah has the response I am sure we all would have if put in his shoes. He is thinking he is to young to be used by God and to have such a powerful ministry  and have the weight of a nation on your shoulder that’s A LOT  of pressure for someone his age. 

God may have given Jeremiah such a great calling but one thing about God is he wont leave you out to dry. He told Jeremiah in verses 9 and 10 ” Then the Lord reached out with his hand and touched my mouth. He said to me, “Jeremiah, I am putting my words in your mouth. Today I have put you in charge of nations and kingdoms. You will pull up and tare down. You will destroy and overthrow. You will build up and plant. God gave Jeremiah an importation from him so he would speak what the Lord has called him to speak. He also gave him instruction and insight as to what he has called him to do while doing the will of Christ.

When I study the bible I always think and ask myself “I wonder what the world would be like is such and such did not adhere to the calling on their life?” One thing is for certain One’s disobedience can effect many. Answer the call. Do not fear cripple you from God assignment on your life. You do not have to have it all together for you to be used mightily. God has specific people for us to come in contact with and we are going to be used in some way to get them to where they need to be for their purpose. However that is only if you are obedient and do what you are being told to do. The theme that I am getting at right now is Obedience. Obedience plays a major role and is a MAJOR key in walking in your assignment. If your not walking in Obedience then what are you doing?

The time is NOW!!! Activate the call on your life. Take a leap of faith and do what the Lord has been calling you to do. It may not make sense, you may not know how it will all come together.. Do not look around for people’s approval. Just have faith and press through. There are no small parts in being a servant of God ( 1 Corinthians 12:12). God will never give you an assignment that he felt you wouldn’t be able to fulfill. SO LETS GET BUSY FOR THE KINGDOM… ACTIVATION ON!!!!

I hope this is encouraging to you all.

I. Love. You. All. ❤

xoxox…Z.M.

 

 

 

 

 

The Thoughts of GLP #rant

I woke up this morning very overwhelmed and anxious! For what?? I don’t know! I mean granted its pretty cold today and its raining outside. Lately a lot of unfortunate events have taken place in the world, and it’s been weighing me down! I really felt lost and confused about life! So as I was getting ready for the day I started praying for souls and other things that have been weighing heavy on me!

Then all of the sudden i started to pray over suicidal thoughts and those who may be battling this thing we call life! I want to encourage my sisters and brothers in Christ to stay encouraged!!! God loves you…I love you! Don’t let what you are going through, what you can’t control get you to a place where you walk in doubt, fear or depression! This is coming from a person who has and does struggle with depression and has for YEARSS!!! It always shows its ugly head up at certain points in my life!

“The Lord your God is with you, he is mighty to save.  He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing.”  Zephaniah 3:17

If you feel overwhelmed, lost, useless and just not valued! I am here to tell you, you are valued, loved, cherished! You may have made some mistakes in the past or even present! Do not keep revisiting those memories. It’s time to move on, start a fresh and a new. No one is perfect even though we try to act as if we are. I believe what your going through is for your purpose! Whatever that purpose may be. I feel like challenges that we face in life are not just challenges we go through to say that we went through it. It serves a purpose. Even going back to what I just said ” we go through” that just tells you that this in not your final stop. You are passing through to get to where you need to go! 

Be transparent with is our Heavenly Father! When your not sure about something PRAY!!! cry out to God and I mean CRY out to God. There is nothing like a good cry! Cast ALLLL your cares at the feet of Jesus! He wants to hear from you! God waits for you to communicate with Him. You have instant, direct access to God. He sees your hurt, sees your tears and knows all!

“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment.  The one who fears is not made perfect in love.  We love because He first loved us.”  1 John 4:18-19

His love is so pure and it’s unconditional! You may think he isn’t there but he is! Talk to him he wants to hear from you do not hold anything in! You have this and will get through this! Push…Push… Push! The enemy will not win!

Remember: Self-Love is not selfishness!

* YOU ARE LOVED

*YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE

*YOU ARE NOT WORTHLESS

*YOU ARE NOT WHAT OR WHO THE WORLD SAYS YOU ARE!

*YOU ARE WORTHY OF LOVE AND JOY

*YOUR LIFE IS A GIFT. YOU WILL USE THIS GIFT WITH CONFIDENCE & JOY!

*YOU WILL SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE WHO WILL HELP BRING THE BEST OUT IN YOU!

* YOU WILL RELEASE YOUR NEGATIVE THOUGHTS, EMBRACING POSITIVITY AND OPTIMISM.

*YOU DO NOT NEED SOMEONE ELSE TO FEEL HAPPINESS.

YOU’VE GOT THIS! Stay encouraged, talk to God and/or someone who you trust, or even both!!!! DO NOT KEEP THINGS BOTTLES IN! and most important GOD LOVES YOU, CARES FOR YOU AND HAS A PURPOSE FOR YOUR LIFE!!! 

 

xoxo..Z.M.

Free your Mind Of People Bondage

It is currently 8:40 am and I had to get out of bed and start to blog. This topic has been heavy on my heart. It is time for us to come out of People Bondage!

I believe that from this point on WE, Yes You and myself will be free from people, how they feel about us, and what they say about us.

I was laying in bed and I rolled over to check what time it was, and it was about 7:40 am. So I roll back over to go back to sleep ( mind you it is Saturday I need my sleep). As I am forcing myself to go back to sleep the enemy starts to taunt me with thoughts that I know are straight from hell. Back story these past few months I’ve been going through A LOT. I have been dealing with my emotions and keeping my mind, I was in such pain and hurt like I’ve never been before because of things and actions done from people. My mind was being attacked with images of such evil and wickedness, things that are not my character, the thoughts and words of hurt that have been said to me by people who I cared so much for.  It was pretty intense. I never felt so much hurt, negativity, pain and a sense of loneliness and feeling lost. I was pleading the blood over my mind and casting down every wicked imagination that was being sent to my mind. It got so bad I had to get up out of bed and seek God.

Who would’ve thought that people bondage could be so strong. How many of us care about what others think/ view us? How many of us care what other say about us? How many of us want to please everyone else but in the meantime fail to pay attention to your own needs? How many of us try to fit in / be accepted by others by any means? If you have said yes to all or even one there is  people bondage.

“STOP ENTERTAINING RELATIONSHIPS THAT PULL YOU BACK TO PLACES THAT GOD FREED YOU FROM.. IF GOD BLOCKED IT DON’T STALK IT” 

I know it’s easier said than done when people say to ” Stop caring what others say about you or how others feel about you”. We all have feelings and emotions and that’s okay, that just means we are human. There comes a point however when you have to tell your emotions what to do and where to go. We can’t be led by our emotions. When we are led by our emotions we let spirits of bitterness, anger, resentment, unforgiveness, strife, ect to seep through and taint your heart/spirit. You have to know who YOU are not let the way people look at you SHAPE how you view yourself. I am speaking to myself right now. I am someone who  care about others and has a BIG heart for people, so when I have a fall out or something happens in the friendship/relationship to where it won’t be the same again, it bothers me to my core.

When dealing with people who may not like or care for us we have to rememberFor though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ –2 Corinthians 10:3-5). There is a spirit behind the issues, it is not the person who we have an issue with but the spirit behind it.  The enemy loves to bring contention and division in the body of Christ or even in your family dynamic. So he will make it seem like the issue is with the person but  it is really a spirit. Sometimes some issues are better off being left at the feet of Jesus. We do not need to fight every battle that comes our way. Pick and choose your battles wisely. 

The Lord had to show me that some of the friendships that ended drastically or “out of the blue” had to happen because where He was taking me they couldn’t go.  God also  wanted to show me who they really were. Sometimes we are can be blinded by seeing the good in them that we miss red flags that are right in our face.  So sometimes it’s for the best that you be free from some people. It will hurt and be painful but it will be worth it and beneficial in the end. 

“It is important that we know who we are and love ourselves. This way when people try to come and tear you down it has no effect on you because you know your worth and your value and you will not let anyone to come and say other wise.”

“Deal with your enemies the way that the Lord commanded us to”

No matter what happens between you and other people never let unforgiveness, bitterness, anger, resentment, hate, strife ect, get build up in your heart towards them. Pray for them daily, you never know what they are going through or what they went through at a young age that they have yet to deal with and get delivered from. When you walk around with wickedness in your heart towards others you are only poisoning yourself with those emotions. They are living their best life and you’re over here stressing, looking angry, distraught and silly. If you walk righteous before God and continue to serve him faithfully and with a pure heart, he will deal with your enemies.

Reminder: Just because you forgive them that does not mean that you need to starting hanging out with them again. 

When we get free from people and what they say, act or feel about us, nothing will be able to bring us down. People can be our biggest downfall but always

8 ways to deal with people: ( just a few tips)

Accept that not everyone is going to like you

Try to put a positive spin on what they are saying

Be aware of your own emotions

Don’t take it personally and get some space

PICK YOUR BATTLES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Don’t be defensive

Express how you feel calmly and have someone to mediate ( someone mature and wise)

AND LAST BUT NOT LEAST ( MY FAV)

 Ultimately remember that you are in control of your own happiness.

I pray that you received something from this. My prayer is that we will take back our life and our happiness. No longer will we let other control us! IT’S TIME TO BREAK FREE!!!!! 

God Bless

xoxo..ZM

God! I need Direction… HELP!

You know you have a purpose, you have a desire but You don’t know where to go, how to start or even if your going in the right direction! God has you covered. It is time we lean and rely on God not self. If we seek self instead of God we are destined for disaster! Lets look deeper into how to get to where God destined us!! =)

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Set Apart For a Greater Purpose!

 

 

Romans 8:28 (KJV); And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

Did you know that before you were conceived in your mother’s womb that the lord had already set you apart and placed a calling on your life? In the end it is up to you  to answer the call or not.  Jeremiah 1:5 (AMP); “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you [and approved of you as My chosen instrument],
And before you were born I consecrated you [to Myself as My own];
I have appointed you as a prophet to the nations.”

  I remember  like it was yesterday. It was 2013 My mom and I were on one of our walks where we talk and have our Mother and Daughter time and we saw a friend who lived in the neighborhood. We stopped and talked to him for a little bit, mid way through the conversation he stops and looks at me and tells me that God wants to use me in such a way that it is going to cause me to be separated from people. He goes on to say it’s going to be REAL LONELY but God needs me to be away from people so he can manifest somethings in me and fulfill the calling/purpose that he placed on my life.  Now at this point in my life I was just getting accustomed to hanging around people who were the total opposite of what I was use to being around. I was now surrounded with young people who go to church, are involved in the church, didn’t drink, didn’t smoke, didn’t curse, were kingdom minded ect. Now lets keep in mind that I had just graduated from college a year prior (class of 2012)  so I am still being totally delivered from my old habits.

When I heard  that, I was not sure on how to feel because I had dealt with so much inconsistency in my life that I was a little numb to the news of someone walking out of my life once again . Even though a part of me was excited because I have seen what God can do and is capable of and I wanted to experience it, but on the other hand  the idea of being alone and separated from my peers was not the move at the time. I was use to always being out and about,around people , just enjoying life the right way for once and now I had to sacrifice it all so God can do his thing.  After receiving the word that the Lord gave this young man to give me, I took hold of everything BUT the part of being set apart. So I kept hanging out and staying busy not giving time to God like I should have, so you know what ended up happening? God started to remove people from my life. One thing I’ve learned is that if you don’t do what God has called you to do, He will get you in a place where you have NO CHOICE but to take heed and be obedient ( however there are people who may still rebel and ignore God, but when you fear God you will submit and become obedient.)

God started to remove people from my life and I would see my peers on social media hanging out and having fun and I noticed that I never got an invite. I know we have all been in a position where you were you didn’t make the cut and was on the “Oops forgot to invite you list” and you find out that your friends had a night filled with fun and adventures but no invite was extended to you. Yeah, I’ve been on that list plenty of times.  So, now what felt like rejection from my peers brought me back to a sad/depressed state I was so devastated and perplexed on what was going on. This was just the beginning of my journey.

Deuteronomy 14:2 Amplified Bible (AMP) “for you are a holy people [set apart] to the Lord your God; and the Lord has chosen you out of all the people who are on the earth to be a people for His own possession.”

 I would have never imagined that the season of loneliness that I went through would have been as rocky and unstable as it was. When I say the different levels of emotions I went through LORD HAVE MERCY!!! talk about roller coaster. I was all over the place to the point where I started to think something was wrong with me, and I became sad and depressed because it seemed as if I could not keep friends, or just people around me. Little did I know that was nothing but the trick of the enemy to get me to stray away from God and distract me with my emotions.  In reality God was removing people from my life. Where God wanted to take me I couldn’t bring people, but I was not comprehend that in the beginning.

I would try to hold on to these relationships that God showed me I HAD to let go of. I was so afraid of being alone and feeling left out that I ignored God and all the signs that he was showing me. I ended up not just hurting myself but also hurting my walk with God which caused a delay in the process. When God calls you for a greater purpose you have to walk alone. You may love someone, love being friends with someone, spending time with people, but since God has a specific call on your life they can’t go with you. They can become a hindrance and hold you back and even could also potentially jeopardize the call on your life.

1 Corinthians 12:12-27 talks about  even though we are all one body we all have different assignments and just because you have a different assignment it doesn’t mean that you’re greater or less than another. Ephesians 4: 11-16 talks about different callings that help edify the body of Christ. Everyone has a purpose here on Earth, believe it or not we ALL have a purpose. Some of you may be thinking How can I have a purpose for the Kingdom of God? I’m not perfect! I make mistakes! I am not where I would like to be!  God will deliver you with your help of course and God will use:

  •  your experiences
  • areas that you felt were your lowest of lows to touch the lives of those who can relate
  • and help deliver those who have been where you have been.

You will be surprised with how many people have gone through or are currently going through what you have been through.

                                              My Loneliness is Birthing my Purpose! 

 Isaiah 41:10 AMP; So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

I can honestly say looking back in my season of loneliness (currently still in the season) it’s been rewarding. In the beginning I definitely did not see it as rewarding by any means but, by spending more time with God He has  shown me the direction of where he wants to take me, what He is preparing me for is something great, and I must trust him through the process. Now during my “Me” time, God definitely opened my eyes to see:

  • People for who they really are
  • Showed me what and who he saved me from
  • Took the scales off of my eyes so I would stop being naive
  • Showed me things about myself that I needed/need to work on
  • What i needed to mature in concerning my walk with Christ
  • My purpose
  • Most importantly allowed me to know God for who HE is and know him in a more intimate way.

We must be able to perceive the season because there are different seasons for different reasons.  When God separates you for a purpose/ plan and you’re not able to comprehend what is going on seek God’s face. Do not get wrapped up in your thoughts, emotions and what you can see with the natural eye, because you can easily become subject to those emotion if you dwell in them long enough. That is dangerous! When you let your emotions run your thoughts you can end up walking right out of God’s will for your life because you’re not focused on becoming. One thing about God is that there is a reason behind everything he does nothing he does is in vain.

God has to get you to a place where he can have your full undivided attention. Especially if you’re a busy body who is always up and running with everyone but never sacrifice time to be with God. We all have a purpose and God wants us to live out our purpose and in order for that to happen we must get in the face of God and just communicate with him through prayer, reading his word and just surrendering your life to him also known as submission.

” God isolates you so you can get yourself together. It may seem like you lost friendships & relationships but a better you is worth more!”

So I just want to encourage you today to stay focused on the call that God has set for you. If God is trying to get your attention and you can sense him pulling at your heart take heed, listen and be obedient. The end results will have you EXCITED that you were obedient and let God have his way. Your purpose is greater than anything this world has to offer or can offer. KINGDOM MINDED… KINGDOM DESTINED. Gets no better than that.

God Bless,

xoxoxo…..

 

 

 

 

 

He Said…She Said…

  Ephesians 4:29 ;Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.

What is Gossip? 

Gossip is defined as : casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details that are not confirmed as being true. 

Have you ever heard something  about someone else and it was soooo juicy that you just had to tell someone else, not thinking that it could hurt them or cause problems for you and the other person or even get back to them. Well I am here to help us all understand what Gossip is, does and what the word says about it. I hope you find this to be helpful and of some use. You may be reading this and say this is so elementary I’m aware of this, but think about it you still do it to this day. SO think of this as a refresher! So let’s jump on in:

We are all guilty of Gossiping even myself. I use to be the biggest gossiper known to man. I would know the EVERYONE’S business, but as I grew up and became older and wiser I started to notice how gossiping caused confusion, drama, chaos, unnecessary fights (verbal/physical) so on and so forth.  I really saw how much confusion and drama gossiping  brought when the tables were turned and I was the one that was being  talked about. No one ever wants to be on the side of being spoken bad of but are quick to be the one spewing all evil and probably even false accusations.

As children of God we  MUST set a standard and  not become obsessed with knowing details of everyone else’s life, and focus more on our own soul salvation. This also goes for those who may be new in their walk with God, when we focus less on others and more on ourselves and getting ourselves together we don’t have time to entertain gossip . We must be careful with the conversations that we keep and what we expose our ear’s too. Why you ask?  Well first of all your ears are one of the many gateways to your spirit and when you let certain things in through certain gateways that’s when you give access to the enemy to use you. Secondly because the devil loves to cause division, chaos,confusion,quarrel ect and that is exactly what gossiping does.

The devil enjoys  seeing the children of God coming against one another and  tearing each other down, instead of lifting each other up. The enemy knows that sooner or later the spirit of division, quarrel, hate, backbiting, un forgiveness, murder (in our hearts not physically but it could get to that point if we let it) is going to show itself. God is not about that he is a God of Love and since we are his children and made in his image we are to be of Love  and of light as well.

Hmmm.. WHAT TO DO WHAT TO DO???

When someone comes to you with information about  another person doing or behaving in a way that is not Christ-like  whether that be stealing, fornicating, addicted to porn, drinking, smoking, ect) instead of us running and telling the next person what you heard bring it to God in prayer and pray for that person. When we have a pure heart and pure intentions then we truly care for each other’s soul and walk with God .  Galatians 6:2 says;Bear ye one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.  So when you hear a rumor about someone and you sit back and indulge in the gossip your not carrying the burden of your brother or sister. When Jesus said bear ye one another burden’s He isn’t saying that we are to literally take on their problems but  we are to pray for them  and be an intercessor for them not be so quick to judge or look down on them.

I know your thinking but what if it’s true? If the rumor  is true we ourselves are not perfect we sin everyday we just sin differently. So we have no right to point the finger at anyone and make them feel condemned. If the rumor is true and you are  1000% sure and have concrete evidence the whole works still let it be. If that person want’s to talk about it or needs an ear or shoulder to cry on they will go to someone who they trust and love and speak about whatever is going on. There is no need for you to give unwanted or asked advice/ opinion. If they come to you and want to talk then love on them do not condemn them or judge and most importantly whatever is discussed between you and that person stays between you and that person.

Let me break down the difference between Condemnation and Conviction really quick :

Condemnation means that when someone does something that is wrong they feel like their is no way out.

Conviction works differently for the Christian and non-christian. For the non-christian, conviction shows sinfulness, guilt and brings fear of God’s righteous judgement. Whereas, conviction in the believer brings an awareness of sin and results in repentance, confession and cleansing.

We should get to a place where we do no feel comfortable being in the same space where there is gossip or just negativity in general. I know that sometimes you cannot escape from hearing the He said…She said because you maybe at work, out to eat with friends, in the car with someone ect. What you could do is:

  • find a way to change the conversation
  • you could say something along the lines of “you know what guys instead of talking bout this person lets pray for them”
  • you could tune them out
  • Pray that whom ever is speaking against another person that the Love of God will over take them.
  • If they ask you for your thoughts on the situation have no comment.

but whatever you do,  DO NOT GET INVOLVED.  This is pretty cliche everyone has said this at least once  but Do unto others as you would want done unto you (Luke 6:31)

But I’m the being talked about ( Here is  some Encouragement for you)

If you are the person who is being talked about I know that it’s easier said then done but just forgive and try to  ignore. As long as you know who YOU are and know what is true and what is false that is all that matters. You do not need to explain yourself or prove yourself to ANYONE!!!! Some people may hear something that is completely true but then put a twist to it. Whatever you do please do not do evil for evil and spread rumors about them or talk about them to other people. I know how it feels to have people speak evil against you or about you and it hurts, makes you mad, makes you want to cry, but at the end of the day God loves you and knows the real you. What God thinks about you over rules what everyone else has to say or think.

People will talk whether your doing good or bad. When people speak about me and make up lies, rumors, I always say to myself “Well I must be doing something right because they just can’t seem to stop talking about me”.  What people seem to forget is that not everyone is going to like you and will try to find fault with everything you do or even say, but what we must remember is that we are responsible for our response. You do not always have to have a response to everything. Sometimes silence is the best answer. Keep your head up, smile, know your worth and who you are, carry yourself as the beautiful/hansom wonderfully made person God created you to be. Things will get better and usually the people who try to bring others down with their words feel insecure or not good about themselves, so they feel that they need to bring others down so they can feel better about themselves.

God is the only one who can judge us and will judge us on judgment day. On judgement day we will ALL have to give an account on what we did or didn’t do while we were on the earth. As little as people may think that talking about one another is, that is not Okay in the eyes of God and we will have to answer for that. Especially as children of God we need to come up higher and not get into our flesh and let our emotions run us. We have 2 choices when we hear gossip we either take part  in  evil communications and submit to our flesh or submit to God and do what He would want us to do which is keep ALL evil communications out of our mouth.

 Romans 12:14-18;Bless them which persecute you: bless, and curse not. Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep. Be of the same mind one toward another. Mind not high things, but condescend to men of low estate. Be not wise in your own conceits. Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men. If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.

So if you find yourself around people who all they do is gossip and speak about others downfalls  you need to take yourself out of the equation. You need to continue to live the life that God has for you and not get caught up in the conversations that serve you no purpose.

Key Points:

  1. Set a Standard for yourself to not get involved in evil communication.
  2. Don’t indulge in negative conversations that does not uplift others.
  3. Bring the matter at hand to God in prayer.
  4. Love on the person/ Don’t change how you treat them because of what you heard
  5. Remember that you are a Child of God
  6. Do not do evil for evil
  7. Know who you are in Christ so when people  say something about you it does not phase you.
  8. Pray for your enemies
  9. Give it God
  10. Know that God loves you no matter what and his love never fails.
  11. Bonus* Your ears are not trash cans… if its going to taint your spirit keep it out.

xoxox God Bless ❤