Tug Of War



Who has ever played Tug of War when they were growing up? For those of you who are not familiar with Tug of War it is a sport that directly puts two teams against each other in a test of strength: teams pull on opposite ends of a rope, with the goal being to bring the rope a certain distance in one direction against the force of the opposing team’s pull.

There are moments in life where we can get swept away with the movements around us. It could be you know you need to cut certain people out of your life but your afraid of what will happen once you’ve let them go, or you are being delivered from alcohol, drugs, porn, masturbation ect, but the sin keeps call you and your straddling the fence on should you satisfy your flesh or deny it. You know God is a forgiving God so you try to use that as an excuse to sin and cover up the guilt and shame you feel. 

If you have or are going through this you are not alone. I battle with things constantly. I tend to go back and forth whether it be in my mind/thoughts and emotions. I know what God expects from me and what he would like for me to refrain from, However it is easier said then done sometimes. We know we should live for Christ at all times and be obedient but on the other hand we have times where doing it our way seems to be easier and self gratifying. In reality thats a lie. The more we go against the Word of God the further we push ourselves away from Him.

The devils goal is for us to stray away from God, to get us to the point where we become self-righteous, self-centered, keyword: SELF! Satan wants us to think that we don’t need God we can do it all by ourselves which by the way is a lie straight from hell. This is why the enemy attacks our mind and heart, those two combined is a powerful thing. The devil will have you think “if I do it this once I won’t do it again” or  ” God doesn’t expect me to be perfect so if I repent afterwards it will all well with my soul”. The bible says in

James 4:17; Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to Him it is SIN!

There is a TEST!!!

In the beginning when I was explaining how the game of Tug Of War one thing stood out to me, when I wrote “puts two teams against each other in a test of strength” that spoke to me. I envisions an angel on one shoulder  and a devil on the other shoulder. On one side you have the angel speak life and keeping you in the will/ alignment of God, and on the other you have the devil speaking deceit, lies, death, confusion, just a lot of mess in your ear. Of course what the devil is saying is speaking to your soul because he is saying what you want to hear and you try to tune out the right and holy things out because that’s causing you to kill your flesh.

What are your strengths? What are your weaknesses? As believers we know that God is not a liar and everything he speaks ALWAYS comes to pass right? So when we are in the game of Tug Of War we are in a test to see how faithful and honorable we are to God. In the middle of  the chaos are we giving room for the enemy to come in and bring suggestions and confusion? Or are we speaking life and the word of God  into the situation? When we are going through are we to focused on what we see in the natural that we forget that our God can make what looks impossible possible? While we are going through are we murmuring and complaining or are we rebuking every thought that is not of God?

The way that we deal with situations shows and proves our faithfulness, loyalty, love, honor and trust that we have in God. Now when we sit and let Satan minister to us instead of God, that is how we walk ourselves right out of the will of God and into disaster. Th devil may be tugging at you trying to deceive you with thoughts like ” You serve God and he says he will never leave you nor forsake you but where is he? Why are you in this predicament? Believe it or not the devil knows scripture as well  but he will twist it, this is why it is important to be able to discern and know Gods’ voice versus the devils. Don’t be afraid to speak back to that lying wonder. Let him know ” Yes, My God will NEVER leave me nor FORSAKE me and no matter what I am faced with I know HE will bring me through. I am more than a conqueror, I am His Child and he Loves me! I rebuke you in the name of JESUS and I cast down every spirit of confusion, chaos, deceit, doubt, fear and lie that you try to send my way. You are a liar and there is no truth in you” You have to let that foul devil know you are not the one. 

How to Get Through:

I want to help you guys out with some things that I have done that have helped me overcome certain areas in my life that I needed deliverance from. They say if you do something consistently for 21 days it becomes a habit. So i want to challenge you all to try these tips below for 21 days and see your life transform.

  1. Seek God Daily- Find scripture on whatever it is you are struggling with and meditate on it, let it get DEEEEEP DOWN in your spirit.
  2. Pray- Prayer changes everything. Prayer is one powerful weapon to cast down and destroy all works of the enemy.
  3. Stay away from triggers- If you want to be delivered from:
  • Drinking- stay away from bars, clubs, liquor stores, atmospheres that would make you weak and cave in. If need be eliminate people out of your life who won’t help you overcome or support/ encourage you stay on the straight and narrow path.
  • Porn– Stay off the websites. If you have to stay off the stores,computers, phone any technology that would allow you to view that material. Even fast from technology and when you get the urge to satisfy the flesh Pray. 
  • Masturbation– This goes hand in hand with Porn. Stay away from TV Shows, magazines, conversation, music that could trigger feelings.  When you get the urge deny the flesh get on your face and pray cry out to God. 
  • Drugs– delete that dealers number out your phone, ignore every call that comes to your phone that you know is going to cause nothing but issues. 
  • Gossip- When people come to you with he say/she say or “did you hear” let them know you do not want to hear anything that is not of God. Dismiss it and keep it pushing. Do not get swept in. If you can’t leave and you’re stuck lets say your in a car and gossip is being told DO NOT ENGAGED! If anything just say we should pray for them.  Use your mouth for good not evil.
  • Unforgivness,Pride,Strife..……and the list goes on. 

4)  Have someone who can hold you Accountable– When you are having a weak moment it’s good to have someone who will listen and not judge but at the same time let you know what thus saith the Lord and do it with LOVE. 

5) Stay in the Church. Keep getting fed, stay encouraged,God has given us Shepard to watch over our souls if you need counseling go and speak to your leaders. They will help you. I know some people prefer therapists and counselors whatever your comfortable with just seek help. 

                                    Matthew 26:41 ; Watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation; the Spirit is willing,but the flesh is weak. 

I love you all, stay encouraged and be blessed ❤


xoxo. ZM

Let Go & Let God: Forgiveness is the final form of LOVE <3



               ” I sat there, lost and cold because I was betrayed by the one person I didn’t  expect to hurt me. I wanted to erase the memory but that’s unrealistic; then, a magic moment happened. I forgave them. Even though it hurt like hell, forgiveness brought me freedom, joy and happiness. I was no longer a slave to my circumstances”

Forgiveness is a deep process, which is repeated over and over again in our hearts. It honors the grief and it honors the betrayal. And in its own time it ripens into the freedom to truly forgive.                                                            – Gina Sharpe ” The Power of Forgiveness” 

Do you ever stop to think that when you have unforgiveness in your heart and you keep dwelling on a situation that happened in the past, that you withhold yourself from enjoying life and living life in abundance? When you walk around pouting , murmuring and complaining about what someone did to you, you are giving that someone the power to run your life. Now I understand if its fresh and happened that day , the day before but when it goes into weeks, months even years especially years it’s time to get out your feelings and move on with your life. We should never let unforgiveness fester in our hearts because it does nothing but taint our spirit and make our hearts hard towards that individual.

Forgiveness does not excuse their actions but forgiveness is a reflection of loving yourself. When you love yourself you take control of your life and you do not let people and their behaviors take a hold of you. Especially as children of God we should want to walk in light and not have a dark cloud over us and carrying the burden and weight of unforgiveness on our shoulders. We want to let everyone see the presence of God over us and not anger and bitterness, no more living in our emotion and feelings. We let our emotions control us too much and it’s becoming second nature that we may not even realize that we are walking in our emotions. I had to learn through my walk with Christ ( I am still learning to this day) that people are going to hurt you as long as you have breath in your body. It’s life we may hurt someone, and someone may hurt us maybe not intentionally but we all will or have rubbed each other the wrong way. It is up to us with what we choose to do with that. Did you know that unforgiveness is a sin?

  Have you taken the time out to think about how we  hurt, offend and disappoint our Heavenly Father daily? But yet he is merciful and gracious to forgive us each and every time, we should have no problem forgiving one another. If you think about it we do not deserve God’s grace, as many warning’s as we get from reading his word about how we should live  but continue to carry on in our flesh. God even blessed us (the church) with real Men and Women of God who hear from Him personally to give us warnings/rebukes, but we still carry on the same ol same ol as if we missed that service.

We grieve The Holy Spirit far worse then we hurt one another how you ask? By…

  •  walking in disobedience ( parents, pastors, the word of God)
  • putting people, things, objects before him
  • not walking in Love
  • not sharing the word of God with others
  • when we “repent” but continue to do the sin we “repented”for
  • walking in rebellion
  • when we use God to get things
  • unbelief
  • Unforgiveness 

and the list goes on and on.

Forgive and Forget

(KJV) Colossians 3:13; Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.

If you say you forgive someone then you must truly forgive them. One way to find out if someone really forgave you is if they consistently bring up what you did to them in the past and can’t seem to let it go. I see this a lot in relationships whether it be marriage, dating, or friendships. We have all seen it in movies and TV Show’s as well where it is usually the Man who does something ( sorry guys) to make the women upset and want nothing to do with you and  he begs for her forgiveness and show’s how sorry he is by doing sweet gestures for his lady. The girlfriend or wife then forgive their loved one and everything is all cute and lovely. All that comes to an end when the Boyfriend/ Husband does something else that the girlfriend/ wife may find offensive or makes her mad, and she will proceed to bring up the past and say you were never sorry you continue to do this,that and the third and last month you did this and that… well guys guess what she never let it go and never forgave. The emotions and memories  were tuck away in her back pocket in case she needed to take them out again.

When you forgive you forget as well or at least that’s what we are suppose to do. I know everyone thinks that we are suppose to forgive but not forget.. Well sorry to say this but that’s not how it works. When we forget it shows that we are starting over on a clean slate whatever happened in the past  that is where we choose to leave it in the past. Some people including myself may have a hard time forgetting because it really hurt us or someone who we loved, and trusted betrayed you and your not sure if you could ever trust them again or have the same bond that you once shared. In order for us to have full control and not let the behavior of others take hold of us we need to be honest with ourselves and truly forget. When we let unforgiveness take residence in us that is were resentment, bitterness, hatred, strife comes into play. Letting those different spirits take hold of you only God knows what you are capable of doing and that’s a scary thought.

(KJV) Ephesians 4:31-32; Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.

Holding on to the past and being help captive in that moment can cause you to act out in ways that you probably never imagined. I remember when I was in college I was  fresh in my walk with God ( i needed A LOT of deliverance) but  there were some people who treated me unfairly they bullied me, would taunt me, say all types of things to and about me. I would cry , hold in the anger and frustration, drink my emotions away until I was numb and it got to the point where  the spirit of murder came over me. I would have visions of myself committing horrible crimes against them (and it didn’t help that my major was criminal justice) and it got so bad that I honestly scared myself because that was not me at all. I knew right then and there I needed to get away from everyone be by myself get in the word and pray. It took time but I was able to forgive and forget and to this day I do not hate them I have not have hard feelings towards them. It feels good knowing that I can love on people who have done me wrong. That is when you know you are walking in light and maturing in God.

5 Way’s to help you Forgive others:

  • Don’t deny that you’ve been hurt. Forgiving isn’t denying.
  • Make a decision to forgive others ( Luke 17:3-5)
  • Don’t seek revenge or repay evil for evil. Let God Handle it ( 1 Peter 3:9)
  • Pray the Lord will release any anger inside you ( Ephesians 4:26-27,31)
  • Pray for those who have hurt you ( Matthew 5:44)

Forgiveness and The Love of God ❤ 

(KJV) Isaiah 43:25-26 I, even I, am he that blotteth out thy transgressions for mine own sake, and will not remember thy sins.

Did you know that God Forgives us  every time we sin? When we forgive others of their wrongdoing towards us God will forgive us. If we do not forgive others he will not forgive us. Think of one the the worst sin’s that you’ve committed and you know that if God had not been merciful and forgave you, you would have been on your way to hell with gasoline draws on. When we ask God for forgiveness we must truly want forgiveness and want to change. When we are forgiven we must turn from the sin and continue doing right. We will stumble and fall but it’s not about how we start but how we finish.The thing about this is that if we continue to sin and have no type of proof of us trying to change and grow,God will take his hands off of you and leave you to your sin. So do not think that just because God is merciful and forgiving that you can continue to get away with murder. You never want to be where God was but where he is.

(KJV) Romans 1:28-31 And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient; Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers, Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents, Without understanding, covenant breakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful: Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.

God loves us and he wants to see us prosper and love one another regardless of how people treat us. We can’t say we are Christians (Christ-like)  while walking around mad, holding a grudge, not wanting to forgive and just set in our ways. Jesus was betrayed, lied on, set up for death, and died an innocent man because of unbelievers and people who did not like him for the lies that people made up about him. Through it all Jesus forgave each and every single one of them.Even while he was dying on the cross a slow and painful death he asked the Father to forgive those that did him wrong because they did not know what they were doing.  So think about that knowing that Jesus went through hell and was killed because of lies and betrayal He was still able to  forgive and have love for his enemies we should be able to love those who do us wrong. We have it easy compared to what Jesus endured.

Unforgivness is also a form of rebellion and Rebellion open’s a door to the demonic in a person’s life. The Bible strictly warns us against rebellion, and it’s consequences are not to be taken lightly. God’s Word tells us that rebellion is in the same category of sin as witchcraft itself ( but i will touch on that in a different blog) ..

What if they continue to hurt or offend me?

The Scriptures below sum’s up what we are to do if someone we constantly forgive continues to hurt us. If you do not understand what they are saying they are saying to FORGIVE!! Continue to forgive them over and over and over again!

(KJV) Matthew 18:21-22; Then Peter came to Him and asked, “Lord, how many times will my brother sin against me and I forgive him and let it go? Up to seven times?”  Jesus answered him, “I say to you, not up to seven times, but seventy times seven.

(KJV) Luke 17:3-4  Pay attention and always be on guard [looking out for one another]! If your brother sins and disregards God’s precepts, solemnly warn him; and if he repents and changes, forgive him. Even if he sins against you seven times a day, and returns to you seven times and says, ‘I repent,’ you must forgive him [that is, give up resentment and consider the offense recalled and annulled].

So please everyone lets challenge ourselves to forgive daily even when it is hard, try to find the good in the person. Even if you have to be distant from that person have no hate or bitterness or unforgiveness in your heart towards them. We are to blessed and beautiful or handsome to carry the ugliness of Unforgiveness.

xoxo… God Bless ❤